Thank you for sending your beautiful condolences. They are a great comfort and source of love to Richard's family.  We have received many hundreds and are in the process of reading each one. Below is a sampling of those we've read so far.  As we read more, we will be adding them to this section.



As a police professional, but family man first, and foremost, I wanted to extend my/our respect and love to you and your girls regarding Richard's passing.

Your dear husband helped me in so many different areas of my life, both personally and professionally. I really can't tell you how many times I've reached for one of his books when I needed a candle in the darkness that dealt with life's stressors, or my own depression that I seem to keep at bay. I will continue to support, read, and preach his loving ways. Believe it or not, I practice his guidance of loving, caring and remaining present moment oriented.

Even in the toughest of times, love is the underlying theme and message.

Our love to you and your family,

TM, Walnut Creek, CA


Many times, when I am on my way to a party, an event, or a meeting, I find occasion to recall one of Richard's sayings, "Wait until you get to the party to have a bad time". I usually chuckled, remembering how fortunate I was to have heard him speak - at his daughter's school - quite awhile ago.

Now, every time I have reason to recall that phrase, I will also recall the joy he brought to this world and will say a prayer for him in as he has new adventures in the next. My prayers are with all his family.

KQ, Lewiston, CA


My daughter is overseas, traveling with a friend and is having a difficult time keeping harmony though they have been friends for a long time.  

I thought I would send her a few words from a Don't Sweat book that would give her a moment to think and better enjoy her travels.  I have bought about three dozen of the Don't Sweat books over the last two years.  I give them away to everyone who expresses an interest.  I am a manager in a HR department and many people, over the years, have told me they were stressed at home, or work, about family, or friends.  I've heard it all.  The first book I gave to a co-worker who was going through a difficult time...totally by chance…something to read while she was in the waiting room of a hospital.  She found so much value in it, I bought another and gave it to another friend who needed it.  That got me started.  This year I have already given away two and the year has just begun. 

Much to my surprise, I found I have given away all my copies (usually I keep one around for me) so did not have one to refer to for my daughter.  So on to the internet I went. 

I am so sorry for your loss.  I have been meaning, for several years, to write to Dr Carlson and tell him how much his books have meant to the people I have given them to.  No matter how stressed, overwhelmed, sad, or off track the person is, they have all found value in the pages of this little book.  I call it "filling toast time".  I always approach the offer of the book with the following: "We live in a busy, fast paced life.  When we are faced with loss, stress, depression, keeping busy helps us through.  However, there is that time…those little moments in the day when our world is paused and our sorrow seeps in. Like the time it takes when you are waiting for your toast to come up. In those little times...read a chapter…it will fill the space with something positive and give you another perspective to view your day, life, world".  I tell them to use the book for "toast time". 

I didn't mean for this letter to go this long, but I was taken aback when I saw that Dr. Carlson had passed away.  As I said, I am not really religious.  But I do believe everyone lives forever in your memory. 

I wanted to tell you that Dr. Carlson will live forever in mine, and everyone who I have given the book to in the past as well as the future. 

L, Carmichael, CA, USA


I have just reached the chapter in my beautiful book that explains the need to reach out to those who are important in your life by way of written or typed letters. My first thought was to write to Richard himself and tell him just how special his book has become to me. I will start at the beginning.  I received his calendar of daily quotes as a Christmas gift. I was so impressed with the words contained that I went in search of his book. After trying eight outlets (all sold out) I finally found my treasured copy. It has become my daily bible reading and I make every attempt, most often succeeding, by reading a chapter each day.  It has lifted my soul, calmed my nervous energy, helped with my stress levels and given me insight into the need to see others and life in general, in a new light.  Today, following the chapter on letter writing, I chose to find Richard's email address.  As tears welled in my eyes, I read that we have lost such an amazing soul.

He has given me so much that it is hard to imagine that he has been taken from us all so early. I have a great deal of problems understanding death so yes, your website reading will be the next point of call. Little did I know that the letter that I write would never be read by the man I admire and thank so much. My life has turned around and I know I will always have Richard to thank for this. 

Marilyn Holloway, Newcastle, NSW, Australia


I am truly sorry to hear about Richard.  I have his books and enjoyed them.  My prayers and thoughts are with you Kris and your girls.  Blessings for the future, he will always be remembered fondly from those of us who were inspired by his words.

J, Minneapolis, MN, USA


I have enjoyed Richard\'s work and have a CD copy of his book about intimate relationship. I keep it and listen to it again when I need a good reminder. He was and is a great light and I am sure his guidance from the world of spirit will help you in bringing more great works forth.

I send my condolences and hope you can wish him well on his journey and remember to rise above what may be consuming grief at times and sustain yourself with the joy of knowing he is serving in a grand new capacity from a place of pure spiritual awareness.

I too was shocked to hear of his departure, but my life has also been enriched by his presence and his gifts continue to give "sooooooo much love." Remember to feel his presence in every passing moment and let his love touch your heart every day. I wish you the best in this transition time and in bringing more of his love to the world.

LA, Alexander, NC


Richard Carlson has always been an inspiration to me in life and raising our five sons. He is without a doubt my favorite author.
As my children have since grown, we continue to enjoy his books.
They apply to everything in life. I am so sorry about his passing, he is such a loss to all of us.

I am very happy to see that his memory will always live on through his books and most of all through his loving wife and daughters. I am so sorry for our loss.

Sincerely,
JH, Woodland Hills, CA, USA


Richard touched me through his books during his life and the shock of his death has touched me even more... if that's possible. He was justifiably proud of his wonderful daughters. I have just read Jazzy's tribute to her dad, and he would have been blown away by it. Richard achieved many wonderful things, and he has certainly brought two AMAZING young women into the world. They are his legacy. And Kris - your words comforted ME... that seems so wrong.. and yet again... it's just how you and Richard ARE... (and it's always Kris and Richard…and always will be.... one hand washing the other).

I send you all my love. My tears for Richard, (a man I have never met…but whose books have done more for me than anyone will ever know) are being shed. Amazing that part of my "problem" is that I "can't feel" because I've been hurt so much in my life. Richard taught me to forgive and now teaches me to feel. So even in death, Richard is showing me who I am. My authentic self.
Thank you Richard.

MJ, Dronfield, UK


Dear Kris & the girls,

This year I came across Richard\'s site and never missed reading it, it did not only give me joy, it also completed me in many ways, and I acknowledged my many weakness and strengthen my ability to reach others. I was deeply shocked to hear of his demise. Through his column, I have become an unknown friend to him.... I did share this news with my family, my words were ' a friend of mine has passed away '. Confident, he has left a positive and a beautiful part of his life with you & the family around to cherish and to carry on with.

His work is your family strength Kris! He in so many ways have guided in his life all of us, how to carry on and move ahead at times of this and others, it is left to few of us to ensure that his light is spread!

God Bless You all/ nina


My deepest sympathies to the Carlson family. The Don't Sweat series has been a gift indeed in my life...I have several books - especially in regards to being a mom and at work - and over the years, there have been many moments Richard's calming, thoughtful words have helped me find clarity through the chaos of the moment. I will miss that....and shall treasure the books he wrote even more.

I am sure there are not enough words to capture the magnitude of this loss for your family...Know that Richard touched many lives and for that, he will long be remembered.

God bless.


Dear Kris:

I don't know if you remember me, I'm Kimberly Radtke's friend. You actually introduced us when you were in Boca Raton when Richard was speaking many years ago. I just learned about your loss. I am so sorry. Wow. I know you know how many lives you both have touched over the years, but I just wanted you to know that you both are very special people. I know you and your daughters have many people thinking of you and love you all very much.

Please know you have a few more in Florida with you in their prayers.

Cindy Sessoms Banks (Fort Lauderdale, FL)


I am so sorry for your loss. I just started reading Richard's works and literally they are changing my life. I work at a bookstore and have been telling everyone that comes in about them. I did not become aware of his death until today and am so saddened by the news. You must find comfort in the fact that he leaves such a legacy of love behind. I can tell you that he has truly made my world a better place and I will forever be grateful.

Sincerely and peacefully,

NG, Bridgeport, CT


I cried when I heard that Richard had died. Such a great loss to everyone. He had the most awesome gift to communicate with people. My entire family felt an instant connection and love for him. His writings taught us a lot. We loved it when we had the chance to hear him speak at CTK quit a while back as a fund raiser for John Swett Elementry. He will be missed.

My heart goes out to you and the entire family. God bless you and keep you.

The Fivella Family, Martinez, CA


The following condolences were posted on 6/8/07 (11 mesages)


Dearest family members of Mr. Carlson,

I share your grieve of Mr. Carlson's sudden death. We will all miss him badly. Life has to go on and I'm sure that Mr. Carlson would like to see his family to live everyday's life happily & meaningfully (even without his presence). Mrs. Carlson, your husband will bless all of you from heaven.

Best regards, Kelly from Singapore


Oooh we are so sorry to hear of your loss. We have just discovered Richard and his sensational work. We know he will be sorely missed, but his tremendous work will continue to help others as we're sure was his greatest wish.

With deepest sympathy, Kathy and Linda (Duncan, SC)


I found Dr. Carlson's words so soothing & comforting whenever I read them. I am grateful for his words & ideas whenever I felt discouraged or struggling. Never underestimate the power of words --- Dr. Carlson's words will live on through his books, his family, his friends and his readers. We will continue to work towards all the good that love is because of him. That is a great legacy!

Susan Gibbons (Massapequa Park, NY)


I don't even know Richard; would not have had the opportunity to know him! But I am saddened to tears at his death. I lost my brother at the age of 37 when he was killed by a drunk driver (in 1997), so I know what it feels like to lose someone you love suddenly, long before their time.

My heartfelt condolences go out to Richard's family. May God hold you in the palm of his hand during this time, and the difficult days to come. And may you all know the joy of a future reunion in heaven, as you trust Christ for every need.

Anne Galivan (Tallahassee, FL)


Dear Kris

Thank you for taking the time to write a message to all the readers of this wonderful site. On reading it I finally felt at peace about Richard's untimely death. This site and his books have been a great comfort to me since I first read his book 'Dont Sweat the Small Stuff and its all Small Stuff'. I will watch out with great anticipation for the release of his unpublished writings.

God Bless you and your family and I know that Richard will be always with you in spirit and watching over you all. Lianne (Auckland, New Zealand)


The physical world has released to heaven one who is on an endangered list --- one with a precious and beautful heart! My family and I will keep you forever in our thoughts and prayers. Sean Geraty (Oconomowoc, WI)


Dear Kris:

I couldn't believe my eyes when I read the dreadful news that Richard Carlson is no more. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. I have his books by my bedside. He was one of those people that I wanted to meet although I live far away from you. Tomorrow is our festival of Eid, a time of joy and sharing just as you celeberate charistmas every year. But my heart weeps for your loss. May all of you find peace in the fact that he wouldn't have liked for his loved ones to feel sorry for a long time. I wish peace for all of you. Love, Fatima from UAE


Dear Kris, Barbara, Don and Family

We learned of Richard's death through a mention in The Week magazine. We met Richard briefly through Barbara and Don. It was from them that we were accquinted with his writing. There is little to compensate for such a deep and sudden loss. Only know that Richard's life touched so many others is a good and meaningful way. He touched ours and for that I am grateful. His life was too short but what he accompolished was timeless. You are in our hearts and thoughts. Our sincere condolences.

Kaye and Barney Barnett (San Anselmo, CA)


I have just aquired Don't sweat the small stuff and am anxious to read it and other books that Richard has written. It sounds as if he has written and given so much. I guess God needs him now. I pray from his family and all those who loved this man. Carolyn Strickler (Sutter Creek, CA)


The thoughts that I have listened to on Richard's tapes and read in his on-line columns and books have been and will continue to be so helpful. I was so stunned and greatly saddened at the news, but he left such an incredibly meaningful legacy and the knowledge that he has helped and will continue to help so many people means so much. My heart goes out to his family. It must be very touching how so many have told how much he has meant to them and how he has changed their lives. He was such a unique and special person. Though I never met him, I can picture how special it was for those who have. Please accept my heartfelt gratitude and appreciation for all his immense contributions to the betterment of mankind. Very sincerely, Doug Cunningham (Lisle, IL)


To the Carlson Family,

I just wanted to pass along my deepest condolences on the passing of Richard...I read about it this morning and was stunned to say the least. Richard's books have had a profound impact on my life and have helped me during some very difficult times in my life (i.e. the passing of my father two years ago). His chapter on Finding Life After Death helped ease the pain and accelerated the healing process for me. I hope it will for you all too. You were all so blessed to have him in your life and we his readers were equally blessed that he was willing to share his wisdom and insight with all of us to make us better people and live more peacefully,

God bless, Jeff


The following condolences were posted on 5/1/07 (5 mesages)


I was so shocked to hear the news. Although I have never met you all, I have benefitted so much from Richard's books and the peacefulness that comes through the words. He truly was a wonderful person who touched many hearts including mine and I cannot even begin to imagine your loss. All I can say is treat yourselves very gently and cherish his memory. May you be comforted. Many blessings,

Esther (Manchester, England)


I'm deeply saddened by this news of Richard's passing. He has been a true inspiration to me as I have read many of his books and his Creating Miracles Everyday CD's is one of my all time favorites. Since I have almost all of the Nightingale Conant CD's sets to say it's one of my favorites is saying a lot since there are so many good ones they have. In fact I was planning on sending one as a gift to my Birthmother who I just met a few years ago and was a victim of Katrina. I've sent her other of Richard's books such as what about the Big Stuff and some of the his others. My wife and I have been reading Don't Sweat the Small in Love that the two of you wrote and have been inspired by it as well.

My sincere condolences to you and your family for this sad news. I truely hope though that you and your family can somehow be at peace with this know what a true inspiration your husband/father is and knowing all the good he has done to help make the world a better place. Obviously his family has been a very important part of the inspiration behind the scences.

I truly hope that you and your family will carry on with the inspiration one way or another because the work Richard has done has been a great blessing to the world. Once again I send my condolences, prayers and thanks for the all the insights, guidance and inspriation given. I'm sure Richard is in a better place and perhaps you and your family will be reunited again someday together...Take good care of yourself and peace be with you.

Warmest Regards, Darren Pullar (Phoenix, AZ)


I received the news this evening, Tues Dec. 19th from my Sister. I was crushed and felt an immediate sense of loss. This man changed my life when I discovered him and his famous book in treatment back in 1998. Since then I have saved and collected every page a day calander, every year the calander has come out, and I just found the 2007 page a day calander and purchased it a month ago. Like a deeply religous person who engages in daily prayer rituals, the first thing I do when I get up for the day is read my page a day reading from Richard Carlson. On many occasion this mans words have sometimes turned what would have been a bad day, into a great day. I called him the master of dis lodging stuck or stinking thinking. Some days his words were like magic and even perpetuated personal growth in motion. I am shocked, dismayed, and very sad to hear of our loss to the living universe. This is personal big stuff that I may not choose to sweat, but rather plain and simply suffer. And not by choice. I still have a box in storage with every page a day reading in it since the calander came out. I will miss him not even knowing him personally, but just knowing he no longer walks among the living. My thoughts go out to his family and all those who knew him on a personal level. I am so sorry to hear this very sad news. If the calander may no longer come out every year in the future, I may have to just start rotating the the ones I have saved over the years. His words, thoughts, and notions are timeless and will live on in our hearts always.

Owen Herman (Minneapolis, MN)


I almost feel like I knew Richard. His writings were of help to me in slowing down my life and focusing on the Big Stuff. My sincere condolences to you and I will remember you in my prayers.

Best Regards, Rob Bostrom (Versailles, KY)


Wishing healing to your heart and peace to your spirit now and in the days to come. Though we know heaven has welcomed a very special person our hearts still feel the sorrow. Thank you for including Richard's own words, excerps from "What About the Big Stuff" entitled "Finding Life After Death." His spirit continues to flow reaching out to all of us who share your sorrow. How blessed I feel to have known Richard through the eyes of his adoring mother-in-law, Pat, as well as through his books. His messages speak directly to the reader, initiating profound life adjusting behaviors. I feel richer to have known him. Beauty, peace and comfort surrounds us in this world---thank you Richard. You are God's gift of the heart.

With sincere sympathy to Kris, Kenna, Jasmine, Pat, Ted and their extended family. Lois Wells (Eugene, OR)


The following condolences were posted on 4/11/07 (24 messages)


Dear Kris, Jazzy and Kenna, Ever since I babysat for your wonderful family I have been a faithful follower of your dad. In fact, this past Christmas I received his newest book as a gift from my grandma (the rest of my family always followed your dad as well). He touched my life from the days that I used to pack my babysitting backpack all the way up to today. His legacy will continue to live on as well. I just recently learned of his death over dinner this evening, and I am shocked.

I don't know if you all know this, but I just recently talked to your dad. It had been so long and I chose to ring him up this past summer. It had been almost ten years and your dad continued to respond to me with such love and compassion. He told me all about you guys. Jazzy, he spoke of your going off to college this next year and how he wanted only the best for you and for all of your dreams to come true. Kenna, he spoke about what a joy you were to be around. I couldn't help but smile the rest of the day after speaking with your dad about your family. Your dad was helping me with a book idea of my own titled, "love more" Just as he lived, he touched my life and reminded me to love others more. I just send many hugs in this email-many hugs and much love. He touched my life and because of him, he encouraged me to pursue peace and love always.

Love, Whitney Langdon (Fort Worth, TX)


To the family of Richard Carlson:

I just learned of Dr. Carlson's passing when I visitied the website to list titles for recommended reading to a relative. I have long used Don\'t Sweat the Small Stuff as a personal guide and for advising others. I have purchased a number of copies of "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff . . . It's All Small Stuff" over the past 9 years as I am always giving my copy to someone else. I have also read the editions for Family and for Work. Be assured that Dr. Carlson\'s work will continue to enrich the lives of others. Your family is fortunate to have had such a person among you. While you mourn his loss, understand that the greater your love for him is, the greater the feeling of loss. You will experience feelings of grief in accordance with your feelings of love for him. This is a normal process and the outcome will be remembering the love and happiness, not the sadness.

Jeff Crunkleton, New Castle, PA


I am terribly saddened to hear of Richards death. I bought Don't Sweat The Small Stuff years ago and still today continue to refer to it when I feel overwhelmed. God Bless you Richard. Love and prayers go out to your family.

Peter Chovanes (San Francisco, CA)


I am deeply grieved to learn of the sad and untimely demise. I do understand how painful and anguishing it must be to lose a dear one.

Homage to Richard;

Your spirit will shine through,
in all that we do,
and as long as we live,
we will carry you in our heart.

N.Wynant and family, Kortrijk, Belgium


Richard Carlson gave a lot to the world. I have his books on my shelf and his words have helped me live my life. Like many others living in the UAE, I used to read his weekly column in the Friday magazine, published by Gulf News. Richard Carlson's words live on. His words will continue to teach, encourage, and comfort. He taught people to live consciously, ethically, and with a sense of gratitude.

May you find strength and comfort in his words, and in your memories of time shared with him, as you live through this difficult time of loss.

Ranjini Philip, Dubai, UAE


I read several books from Richard. Just by reading his books I could feel that he was a special man. I'm wishing you all the strength you need. Everytime I read his book I will think of him and his family.  Ingrid Oude Weernink, Haaksbergen, Netherlands


My heart goes out to your family and I send prayers of peace that passeth human understanding your way. I will be thinking of you. Me and my husband used to have a relationship just like yours for about 12 years. The last 2 years I have only tried to remember what that was like cause suddenly we went from being the two closest individuals, or 4 counting our children, to fighting and not agreeing on anything anymore and all that love and being at home feeling you spoke about seems lost and gone. I have no idea how it started, turned around like this, or happened at all, but it did. When reading your letter and remembering what it was like to love like that, I will make another effort to remember and try to bring it back. It is hard to conceive of why a family who loved so well as yours, who did not forget, has to have such heartbreak happen to them, that I cannot understand. But I am glad to know you have nothing but blessings and love in your souls when thinking of him. I send you thoughts of strength and again, peace that passeth human understanding cause there is nothing I know how to say that could mend or take away your hurt, I wish I could write something better. But your husband, you, and your family have touched my life and I am grateful to you. I will try to be the best person that I can be, although I still have so many faults and things to work on, and try to pay it forward as best as I can. In this way, I will try to honor my teachers, of which your husband and father has been one. Thank you. I bless your whole family from a far.

VSR (Stockholm, Sweden)


It is so sad. I have read Richard's book 'Don't sweat the small stuff' at least five times since I was given it by my son.. I read a chapter every night before I go to sleep. I always find his words uplifting and I am indeed very grateful for them. May Richard rest in peace and may his family also find peace.

John Hey (Ashton-under-Lyne, UK


Dear Family, I just heard of Mr. Carlson\'s passing on Dr. Wayne Dyer's podcast from Hay House Radio. I was shocked and saddened. My heart goes out to you all. I read most of Mr. Carlson\'s books and received a lot of help from him through those books. I can honestly say that I know some of what you are feeling because I, too, lost my first husband when he was 45. You are all in my prayers. God Bless!

Peace & Light, Linda Tiedge (Friendship, OH)


To Richard's beloved family,

I am so sorry for your loss. While having to endure the physical separation that death brings, may you be comforted in the knowledge that spiritual separation can never be. We are all connected in love forever. May God\'s blessings be upon you now in your time of need and forever more.

Marie Gulari (Marlboro, NY)


Dear family and friends of Dr. Carlson,

I am one among the many, many, many people that have been helped by Dr. Carlson. About three years ago when I just started to heal from depression one of his books was given to me. As I flipped through it for the first time, the first chapter title that jumped out at me said, \"Let Go\". That was the third time the exact message came to me through various written forms that week. Quite significant for a recovering control freak. That message still guides me. I want to thank all of you who supported him in his great work. I am a praying person who is lifting up Kris, Kenna, Jazzy, his parents, siblings and other dear ones. May the sweet memories of your life together and God\'s good grace give you each the inspiration to live a life in honor of Richard\'s memory.

Warmly, Linda C. Kler (San Diego, CA)


I'm so very sorry for your loss. What a wonderful man; a tremendous human being. I feel very fortunate that he shared his gifts, his learning and his teachings - his discoveries - with the rest of humanity. What a tremendous gift for us all. My prayers and thoughts are with you all. I cannot imagine your sorrow.

Yvonne Bigham, Vacaville, CA


I would just like you to know that Mr.Richard Carlson changed my perspective on life. Although I am still working on his strategies, he already helped me greatly. Like how Mr.Carlson said that God can come in the form of a family member, a friend, or about anyone one can meet, I think he himself was one whom God chose to speak through.

Sincerely, Shela  (Seattle, WA)


I was extremely shocked to learn of the very untimely death of your beloved husband, father, son, brother and friend to all of us even though I have never met him. I feel a part if me has been taken too. I always wonder why God takes the good people at such a young age and am still working on trying to understand why. God does work in a mysterious way but I have to have faith in accepting that God knows exactly what he is doing. I believe there was a very good reason for us to lose Richard no matter how difficult it is for us to understand why. I also believe, as Richard did, that God sends angels in disguise to comfort us all at a time when we need them the most. Take care. Love always to the family Richard left behind in the physical world. Richard Rest In Peace. We miss you loads. Kris, I look forward to reading Richard\'s unfinished/unpublished work .

Usha Pateman, Salisbury, UK


I just wanted to say how much Richard\'s viewpoints and techniques helped me improve my life. I am deeply greatful to his contribution of making the world a better place, one person at a time. My condolences,

Andrew, Pensacola FL


I finally get a chance to thank Mr. Carlson for helping me in all his books and to my dismay an shock he has passed on. I never met him but I know that he was a modern day saint whose tireless work was a life changeing offering of love. I want to thank you on his behalf for being support and strengh. You are truly blessed for having a man of such love to share with the world . My prayers go out to you and the girls in this time of grief. His work is still a GREAT reminder to me each day of how precious life is. I promise to never forget what he's taught me. With God's love, Bob Foster (Langley, BC, Canada)


Dear Kris and family,

We were shocked and so very sad to hear of Richard's passing. My husband and I often sit on our patio and go over passages in Richard's books. We have found much comfort in his writings. We're currently ready "Don't Get Scrooged" and it's as wonderful as his other books. What a privilege it has been to know him and his family through his books. Thank you for deciding to finish the work he has done that hasn't been published yet. We look forward to sharing more of Richard with you. Please accept our sincerest sympathy for your loss. Our thoughts and our hearts are with you.
Bob and Shirley Steinman (Orlando, FL)


Richard's work has touched many people. Here at the Brooklyn VA Medical Center his words have provided comfort and light to hundreds of veterans suffering from a variety of mental health issues.

We incorporated Richard's book into a Life Skills Group we hold each Friday. At the group we read through one or two chapters of Small Stuff and elicit responses from the veterans. Some agree, some disagree yet no one always disagrees. Richard's message of hope and gratitude ends up touching and changing all who listen.

We remain indebted to his words of wisdom and will continue to use his words as inspiration. Trust in knowing that his book and words are living, dynamic ideas and will long out live his body. We are forever in debt to his book.

Respectfully yours, Bert Hirsch, MSW Program Coordinator Day Hospital (a psychosocial rehab treatment program) Brooklyn VA Medical Center


My deepest sympathy to Dr. Carlson's family.

Because of his many books, I am a better person. My life is fuller and less hurried. In times of stress, I would often pick up one of his books and read a chapter or two and it would straighten me out. His words were easy to understand. The way he mentioned his wife and daughters, parents and friends, always made me feel as if I knew him and them. He took nothing for granted. God bless you Richard. May you rest in peace. May your family take comfort in the fact that your books will live on to help others in their time of need. I will keep your wife and daughters in my prayers and pray that God gives them the strength to continue your work and find a way to live without you.

Sincerely, Bernadette Durkin (Oak Lawn, IL)


Dear Mrs.Carlson and family:

I was so deeply sorry to hear of you loss. As you know, Richard was an increadable person, with wisdom beyond his years. I know that you must know how many millions, and millions of lives Richard touched. There was a time when i was so lost and so confussed i couldn't think straight. After i discovered Richards books and thoughts, i found a sense of peace that i hadn't known for a long time. I have excerpts from Richards books on my bedroom wall, and, every day i read them, sometimes several times a day. I don't know how i managed without them.

Please don't ever forget what a special man he was. He will live on forever, in his children, yourself, and his work. I can't express how much he has touched my life. I wish your family peace and comfort.

with deepest sympathy, Kerri Leslie (Bolton, Ontario, Canada)


To Richard's family, I am so saddened by this tragic news. My best friend, Judy Daniels, worked for Marvin and Paul. I went to a book signing in Walnut Creek a few years ago where your whole family turned out for one of Richard's book signings. I was so impressed by your love and support for Richard and his love of all of you. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Marilyn Endlich (Citrus Heights, CA)


Richard incorporated the principles of positive thinking, perspective, patience and humor into his work and writing, and was well loved not only for his ideas but for the compassionate way in which he expressed his thoughts and suggestions.

Our deepest sympathies to the family and colleagues of this wonderful man. He will be sorely missed, but we hope you can take heart in the fact that his work and writings will live on to provide help and inspiration to many thousands.

Al & Kathleen Robinson, Walnut Creek, CA


Just wanted to say how helpful Richard's books have been to me. I teach a group of 16 and 17 year old girls at my church, and i have often used the small stuff for teens books to drive home a point in my lesson. No matter what the subject, there always seems to be a tid bit of wisdom from him that really makes my girls think. Of course reading his books makes one feel as if they know him personally, and therefore his death touches our hearts all the more. as i continue to glean wisdom from his writings and try to pass it on to my teenaged girls, I will think of you, his wife and his own young daughters, pray for you to find peace, and know that you will always have his love and wisdom, in his writings and in your hearts.
Diane Oviatt (Moraga, CA)


I sent my brother a copy of Richard's book for teens. My nephew Seth has been going through some very challenging times. My brother just sent me this note about Richard's passing saying" this is so tragic...the book you sent us is such an inspiration and help..." I wanted you to know that Richard's work and live go on now through his many writings, insights and presence as well as through your own lives....so many hugs and blessings to each of you at a time of sadness but also gratitude and appreciation for all Richard and you have given to so many...peace, and gratitude to you...Lois Patton, Albany, NY


The following condolences were posted on 3/05/07 (8 messages)

I would like to send my love and prayers out to all of the Carlson family...especially his wife, daughters and parents. Through Richard's writings, I feel like I had a deep insight into the wonderful and very inspirational person he was. Of all the great inspirational books I have read over the years it was his books that meant the most to me.

His book, "You can Be Happy No Matter What" is the one book that I believe literally changed my life and inspired me the most. I try to live this philosophy each and every day. If I could only keep one of my books--that would be the book that I would keep. It is one of my most referred to and priceless possessions. Like a Best Friend it has been there to offer me insight and perspective during some of my darkest times. I will be forever grateful to Richard for leaving these special gifts of wisdom behind. I believe he was an angel sent here to make a BIG difference in the lives of others as he did mine. There is no greater way to live your life than being a true inspiration to others. He was a true gift to this world and will be remembered very fondly by me each day as I practice living out his wonderful philosophy for the rest of my life.

I wish you much love and comfort from all your family and friends at this difficult time. I hope you will consider us faithful readers of his work, as friends as well.

Love & Care,
Tammy (Pittsburg, CA)


I am SO sorry to hear about the untimely death of Richard. I found out yesterday when I logged on to Dontsweat.com during my lunch hour to read the latest exerpts, see what was new, etc. My heart actually jumped and I couldn't believe my eyes when I read the words. Mentally, my reaction at first was "WHAT!?!?!", and I sat in disbelief. I then e-mailed my wife to tell her about it (she knows how much I love his books), and in her reply, she wrote, "I'm sorry honey. I know how much you admired him!".

Like many others, Richard's work has touched my life as well. I refer to at least one of his books at least a few times per week. I have read Don't Sweat, Don't Sweat at Work, for Men, most of Family, as well as Easier than You Think, and am now finishing up You Can Be Happy No Matter What. I look forward to reading Don't Get Scrooged (I asked for that for Christmas).

I had the pleasure of meeting Richard and shaking his hand during his Easier than You Think book tour, at the Barnes and Noble at Union Square in Manhattan. He signed my copies of Easier Than You Think, and What About the Big Stuff, and now I will always treasure those books, as well as his others. He truly was, and *IS*, as long as he is in our hearts (and he will be), an inspiration to us all.

I will always do my best to remember what's really important in life, and will encourage my wife and others to do the same. I am truly sorry for your loss.

In his words, "Treasure yourselves"
Scott and Mary Newsam Hicksville, Long Island, NY


Kris, I remember our days as suitemates at Pepperdine getting to know you and Richard and then being able to reconnect 12 years later through Excel in Martinez. I cannot tell you how incredibly saddened I was to hear about Richard. I pray for you and your girls everyday. My husband was just reading one of Richard's earlier books "You Can Be Happy No Matter What" to our oldest daughter Lindsay. As I thought about that, I thought how incredible it is that Richard has left the legacy he has and that through his books, he will continue to impact peoples lives in such a positive way. I was also thinking about a memory I had about him. I brought Caleigh who was a new born to one of your Excel meetings and as soon as I walked in the door with her, Richard swooped her right up in his arms and brought her close to his face and said, "there's nothing like the smell of a new baby". I was struck by how comfortable he was with babies- many men aren't. I send my prayers & condolences.

Laurel (Littleton, CO)


I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. Death is always untimely...I just bought Richard's book on tape the other day..called "You Can Be Happy No Matter What" and I am really learning alot...I just wanted to let you know his work and memories will go on forever...

To Richard's daughters, I too lost my dad when I was 13 years old. That day changed my life forever...I have learned to live life to the fullest and to always have compassion...I wish you peace and love always...

Warmly, LM (St. Cloud, MN)


Dear Family and Friends of Richard Carlson,

I was shocked and saddened to read about the loss of this extraordinary man in today's LA Times. I picked up Richard's "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" when it was originally published, and have been a fan and advocate ever since. His ability to see the world through the lens of spiritually deeper principles was a much needed quality in our multi-tasking world. He saw things clearly and prioritized the truth. He was unique.

My own father died of a cardiac arrest 13 years ago on December 21 (three days from now). He was training to run the LA Marathon with me and was 63 years old. Like Richard, he was a wise, profound, and kind gentleman. The remarkable thing is, his voice and spirit guide me daily, and I have perhaps made better decisions and lived much more deliberately since his passing. I feel things on a much deeper level, and I know it is his heart and courage that guides me.

God bless you all during this difficult season of your lives. May your friends surround you with His love and care, and may Richard's spirit sustain and strengthen you while you live continue to live your lives with the conviction and purpose your husband and father inspired.

With Deepest Sympathy, Michelle Wortner (Newbury Park, CA)


My deepest sympathy to all members of his family. Having lost both my father and mother over the last few years, I feel the pain the family is going through. But such a sudden and unexpected loss of a spouse, father and son must be unimaginable to bear. All I can say is "this too will pass" and the pain will start to lessen over time as the joy of your many years of memories begin to take over.

On a personal note, I have enjoyed reading the "Don't Sweat" series over the years and have found them to be truly helpful, inspiring and even might I say entertaining with some of Richard's stories. He obviously was a wonderful man and great insight that be developed along his life's journey.

My condolences and best wishes to all,

Sandy Catalano (Vacaville, CA)
A Proud Reader of Richard Carlson's work that will live on!


I've been going through a hard emotional time dealing with painful fibromyalgia and trying to keep my spirits up. One of the saving graces in my life is Richards book, "you can feel good again". I've been carrying it around with me to help me not despair into my scary depressing thoughts about my predicament. It literally has been one of the most important threads holding me together. I just found out about Richard's passing and wanted to say how sorry I am and how thankful also that he used his compassion and knowledge to help people who are in despair. He truly was an angel on loan from God. God Bless him and his family. With love, Gina (Niagra Falls, NY)


My dad, Danny Harbour, first gave me "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff," when I was only 12 years old. As a very emotional, easily irritated and out of balance pre-teen, my dad told me with loving confidence: "You are a wonderful young woman and I don't know anyone who deserves to be happy more than you."

I have used the Don't Sweat the Small Stuff books ever since then to help me focus on the moments of joy throughout my life, and maintain perspective on those moments of irritation and stress.

When my father died at age 46 three years ago, I often turned back to the "small stuff" books as a reminder of what it was that he wished for me in my life. With this kind of "big stuff" there is no easy way through the pain, nor would any of us who truly loved another person with all of our being want there to be.

My heart hurts to hear that Richard Carlson has died, and my heart hurts to think of his wife and two girls - and all of the days that they will miss him. I do not pretend to wish them moments of future comfort, for life is not always that fair. But it is enough to say, perhaps, that their father (and husband) was a truly original, wonderful, incredible human being - and he will be missed by so many.

Love, Emily (Denver, CO)


The following condolences were posted on 3/03/07 (34 messages)

I am very sorry for your loss. I hope that the fact your point of view and outlook on life, and love, has affected more people than you realize, and Richard lives on through all of us. Peter Strahlendorf (Media, PA)


I am so sorry for your family's loss. I am so shocked to see the news of his death. He truly touched so many people's lives including mine and my mother's. We both read all of his books and each year purchase a daily calendar to remind us each day to live as Richard and enjoy each day to the fullest. In fact,I just opened mine up today ready for the new year. My heart goes out to your family. Jacie Faas (La Crosse, WI)


I was getting my hair done yesterday afternoon when I was encouarging my haridresser & her husband to read Richard\'s last book...and then my hairdresser told me the unbelievable news that Richard passed on...Easier than you Think changed me in a way that was happening as I read it...in fact, as I read it, it made me feel as if I was listening to an angel...and I kept glancing at the back cover for some reason, because I wanted to write an e-mail to Richard thanking him for his simple advice.

So, to Richard, my very first e-mail of 2007 is to you! And I thank you for being who you are. You will always be alive with me & so many who read your books each day, and find better in themselves. Thanks for being our guiding light. Josephine Lisowski (Redwood City, CA & soon to Boulder, Colorado)


My deepest symphaty to Kris and dougthers,I have bought several of Dr Richard's books, and just bought one this month not knowing he had passed, I'm very sad, and always will be thankfull for all the help,I have found in his books. I'm very sorry for your loss. Norna Wing (Sarasota, FL)


I would like to pass on my condolances to Richards family. I have found his work an inspiration over the past few years and always refer to his ideals in times of trouble.My `small stuff` is nothing compared to the loss to his family. A great writer and from reading his work a great family man and inspiration to us all.  Hannah Mew (Derby, UK)


Dear Kris & Family, I didn't know RC except as an author. I have his little "Don't Sweat" books in my bathroom, so that on a daily basis, I think "this is what I need to read today", about some form of human dilemma. My husband (who is a psychologist & therapist) and I have had them there throughout our marriage of 10 years and I have found extraordinary wisdom there and a friend with the most sound advice. We were so saddened to read of RC's "graduation", but as I try to make sense of anything, especially mortality, I cannot help but agree that for some reason, God has more plans for him beyond the wonderful life and wisdom he has demonstrated here. I am not a religious person in the traditional sense. I am so saddened for your personal loss, and the loss of this light on earth. We can know though that it's glow will be all the greater, larger and more beautiful coming from the spiritual world. Love to you all. I will continue to think of you daily. Such is the reverberation of Richard's love. Mary Bagatelos (Los Gatos, CA)


I feel a great loss for never having met him personally, for never getting a chance to shake the hand or even be in the presence of the person that has changed my life dramatically through his writings. Words, something he used to brighten the lives of others, cannot express what his life meant to others. He will never be forgotten. I am thankful for his life and how he used it to help others.  Aricka (Chicago, IL)


Even the title of his books gives us all a wonderful reminder of what is important and what is, well, not. Thank you to his family for encouraging him to write his thoughts and thank you for helping him share it with those who weren't as lucky to have known him.  Beth (Danbury, CT)


Dear Family of Richard Carlson, Having lost my father almost 2 years ago and his older brother on Christmas Eve this year, I can empathize with you in this sudden untimely loss during a very difficult time of year. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers for healing and comfort and the assurance that Richard has helped me through the holidays with his book "Don't Get Scrooged" and he will continue to help many people with all of his loving, healing books and memories. What a legacy he has left for the whole world! In Peace and Healing, Joan Scott Lowe (Birmingham, AL)


I have long owned a copy of "Dont sweat the small stuff.." bought from a pavement store a long time ago. This book is now a treasured part of my bookshelf. I think in his going too, there is a message for all of us, to value each moment. Mira (Mumbai, India)


I am Brazilian and every day I read Richard's messages in this site. I felt very sad when I knew about his dead. He was a special person and for me he was very important unless I never had seen him. But his words still in my heart all the days of my life. I thank God for RIchard's life and pray for him. Sorry for my bad english. I hope God stay with you and blessing and comfort all of you. Lylia Diogenes (Brasilia, Brazil)


My deep thoughts and sorrow for the Carlson family.  May God give the patience to overcome this loss.  I'm a regular reader of Mr. Carlson's topics which helped me a lot in my own life and I was shoocked to hear about his untimely demise.  May God rest this great person's sould in peace.  I'm praying for his family.  I know it's not easy as I also lost my daughter a few years back and know how his family must be feeling now.  But God will help.  Have faith in Him. (Rabia Kalam, Fajairah, UAE)


I send my deepest condolences to the Carlson family. I have been reading Richard's books every day for the past year. His dedication and devotion in helping people to truly embrace life and to open our hearts to everyone and everything has been such an inspiration. Although my heart is filled with sadness...I am also filled with gratitude for Richard's beautiful works. May his memories live on forever.  Masado,  Ogawa (Tokyo, Japan)


I have always relied on Richard's words of wisdom , whenever i needed a help/support/relief in life. As usual i was going to start a new day at work. And to feel uplifted i opened richards website and was shocked by the news. Richard, you will be still alive in our hearts and thoughts. (Venki, Chandler, AZ)


I was shocked to hear of Richard's untimely death and I know that God has another angel. It is only the second day of 2007 and for the past few months I have been restless, knowing that I need to get off the "hampster wheel" of everyday life. I made a promise to myself on Dec 31 to look at each day as my last and this tragic event has just confirmed to me that it is time...to not sweat the small stuff. My deepest sympathies to all of you. I lost my husband in 1992 at the age of 47 and to this day when I hear songs that we loved to hear, it takes me back and makes me smile, even through tears. A wise friend and mentor of mine told me that we can create a memory box in our heart and I do, I take a memory out and I embody it then I put it back until another time. Blessings to all of you. Lynn Powell (Keowwna, BC, Canada)


Your husband and father touched my life in many ways. I have shared his thoughts and philosophies with many-my staff, co-workers, people in ministry. He has brightened my perspective on many a day. I pray that his work and legacy will be continued. May the love of Christ be your strength and a very real sense of comfort. Marian Williams Special Education Teacher & Social Worker (Upper Marlboro, MD)


Wow! What a gift your family had in the form of Richard. But then you all know that far better than any of us fans of his could only assume to be true. As a trainer, I used 'Don't Sweat the Small Stuff' all the time when training new child protection workers. I encouraged all my trainees to purchase the book and read it regularly as its wisdom is absolutely priceless! Thank you for sharing him with us. I thank Richard for his beautiful gift of taking excellent dictation and then courageously giving it to the world. Peace, Renee Michelle Harris (Miami Gardens, FL)


I wish to offer my heartfelt condolences to you along with my thoughts and prayers. I was shocked to find the message today upon returning to work after the holidays. I found great wisdom and comfort in the words that Mr. Carlson had to offer. May God be with you during this most difficult time. Sincerely, Cindy Hester (LaPorte, TX)


Richard provided so many inspirational messages and advice that were often shared at faculty meetings and educational leadership meetings in our school district. He had so much wisdom and gave so much insight and guidance to make everyday a happy and learning experience. His words and work will continue to help and heal people in the years to come. I so appreciated his work and contributions. My thoughts and prayers to his family (Dakota Koenig, Oceanside, CA)


When a man has the "power" , the gift, the love, to influence people from all over the world, to have people we have never seen him, spoke to him, feel like somebody beloved died... I have no words to express, tears are in my eyes, I am so sad ... Mrs Carlson, I hope God will give you all what is needed to go through this with the optimism that caracrterized him and you... Optimism, love, spirituality... I am a wife,mother,psychologist, from Greece, Europe. Your husband's books inspired me and helped me in all these roles... My love to all of you from Athens. Anny Benetou (Athens, Greece)


So very sad to hear of the loss of such a great person who helped so may people. may god bless him and his family for allowing so many people to begin healing. Thank you and Shalom (Julian Shluch (Bnei Yehudah, Israel)


About a month ago, I pulled off the shelves of my library my collection of the "Small Stuff" series and began reading them again to give me guidance and inspiration to help myself in my own personal struggles as well as those who depend on me to help them as their doctor. The books shed new light for each and every one whose life I touch daily, and I really began to sense a new purpose that God has given me for my time here on earth. Though Dr. Carlson is no longer physically here with us, I just want the family to know what an impact he has had for those of us in the medical field as we continue to help "heal" those who are not only physically ill, but lacking spiritual wholeness as well. (Gwendolyn Allen, MD, Brownwood, TX)


I learnt of the passing away of Richard just this afternoon when I told a friend whom I was visiting about how his book "Don't sweat the small stuff" had changed my perspectives about life, and then directed him to this web site. I was shocked when, a few minutes later, he, announced that Richard was no more. My first reaction was "It must be a different person" so I had to get up to see the screen for myself. In far away Nigeria, Richard, through his book, has touched and changed my life greatly. Though I never met him in person, I have indeed lost a dear friend. He lived a fulfilled life and touched the hearts of millions all over the world. His was the life of a great man. I pray that God Almighty will grant his wife, daughters and entire family the grace to bear this loss....May his soul rest in perfect peace. Amen. (Kehinde Omole, Lagos, Nigeria)


I am so very sorry for your loss. Richard's spirit and books have been an inspiration in my daily life and have changed my life. (Lisa Ziebarth, Calgary, AB, Canada)


Like so many others, I was deeply saddened to hear about the death of Richard Carlson. I always have one of his books with me and read it whenever I need a positive boost. How lucky for those of you who had daily contact with him, because I feel blessed just to have read his books and been touched by him in that way!! I truly believe that God puts angels on earth and Richard definitely was one of them. My heart goes out to his wife, daughters and the rest of his family and close friends for their deep loss. It must be of great comfort, though, knowing what a difference he made in millions of lives around the world. May God give you peace at this difficult time. (Cathi Sanchez, Omaha, NE)


Kris....I hope you remember me....your mom and I were running friends and partners in Portland when I worked at Cornell Court Club. I am so sorry to know of Richard's passing and I cried when I read your beautiful, touching tribute. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. With Love and Caring, Rita Leusenkamp Timmerman (Scottsdale, AZ)


My condoleneces in the loss of Dr. Richard Carlson. I have never been so emotionally and physically awakened more, than by his works. My prayers and love to all family members and close friends during this time of sympathy. (Jennifer Jacot, Waynesboro, PA)


I was shocked and saddened to learn of Richard\'s sudden passing. I am so sorry for your loss. Even though I have read DSTSS, DSTSS at Work, and DSTSS in Love, I still sweat things more than I (and my family) would like. The great thing is that even though RC is gone, his writings live on and I can go back to them at any time. His instruction and encouragement will continue to help me in my process. God bless you as you carry on! (Rick, Pittsburgh, PA)


Kris and Family, I am so shocked and sorry to hear of Richard's untimely passing. I have been having relationship problems with my great boyfriend of 5 years. I remembered that I had the book, " Don't Sweat The Small Stuff In Love," and I was frantically searching for it all over my house. I've read excerpts here and there, and this book has made differences for me on many occasions. I found my book and decided to do a search on Richard and came upon this site. I see how life is short, and how it is ignorant to let the time pass without showing love to those while we still have the chance to. I cry as I write this, and realize that I am fortunate to still have the time to make things right. Thank you both so much for all you have done to improve our lives. My prayers are with you. (Rose Duran, Morenci, AZ)


I am so sorry to hear of Richard's passing. I was fortunate enough to have attended the Wellness workshop in Mammouth at the end of Oct 2006, where Richard spoke. What a tremendous man he was. His books have always been an inspiration to me. He was kind enough to sign a book for me and shake my hand and I honestly could feel his goodness. I loved the way he spoke of his family. May beautiful memories help you all through these tough times. The world is definitely a better place having had Richard here with us. Thank you for sharing him. God bless you all. (Vicki Eckes, Thousand Oaks, CA)


My heartfelt sympathy goes out to Richard's family. May God give you all the strength to bear this great loss. Though I have been only reading Richard's messages in the Gulf News magazine in Dubai, I would always look forward to the simple and apt messages and try to apply them to my daily life. Much of what he wrote, I felt was great advice to me and I was profoundly shocked at his death. My prayers are with him and all I can say is a great human being is no more. GOD BLESS YOU ALL! (Mina Fernandez, Dubai, UAE)


I only learnt of Mr Carlson's death today in the obituary column of The Daily Telegraph. I was terribly shocked. I wish to give Mr Carlson's family my condolences. His books have been a great help to me. Thank you.  (Christopher, London, UK)


I have only just heard about Richard\'s death and feel deeply saddened. Only last night I was dipping into one of my 'Don't Sweat' books. I discovered his books when I was going through the early stages of divorce and really needed motivation and positive energy. Not only did I get through it, but I met a man who has brought love and happiness to my life that I never thought possible, and sounds like the love that Kris describes for Richard. My deepest sympathy to Kris and the family. (Caroline Leonard (Jersey Channel Island, UK)


I was so sorry today to read in the Daily Telegraph of Richard's sudden and unexpected death. His writing was truly inspirational and must have helped so many people all over the world. His spirit, memory and words live on, but physically he will be sorely missed, most especially by his nearest and dearest. My deepest sympathy go out to his family and friends. May he rest in everlasting peace. (Angela Paskins, Christchurch, UK)


Previously Posted Condolences

In peace. I have long owned a copy of "Dont sweat the small stuff.." bought from a pavement store a long time ago. This book is now a treasured part of my bookshelf. I think in his going too, there is a message for all of us, to value each moment. Mira (Mumbai, India)


Several years ago, I read Richard's original "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" during a very rough period in my life. Today as I was feeling very stressed, I decided to try to find his official web site in order to read something that might help me feel a little brighter. One reading of his first book kept me more relaxed and enjoying life more for years. I'd forgotten that feeling and wanted to find it again. When I got to the site and found that Richard had passed - what a sad feeling! Richard has touched so many lives - many who never had the chance to tell him, like me. I am thankful that Richard knew how to live life and that he knew joy. I am thankful that he touched my life and I am so very sorry for your loss. I am thankful that his legend will live on in his books that have helped so many. God bless his family, Beth (Barnesville, OH)


I know this is probably one of thousands of messages you will receive, but Richard was truly a brilliant author and touched my entire family. Often, in the times of greatest stress, I would turn to the simply, folk-wisdom of "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" for reassurance. I would read excerpts routinely to my wife and they would each be received with a comfortable nod and a loving, peaceful understanding. Richard had a gift and a very modern sense of how to communicate to stressed-out, over-extended people like many of us here in the Bay Area. Even during this difficult time, know that in his 45 years of life, Richard gave many times his individual self in love and in a simple message of hope to thousands like me. Thank you for supporting him and may God bless you and your family. With love...Michael Fried (Foster City, CA)


I am a psychologist who had a heart attack seven years ago at 37. My sister gave me a copy of "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" in the hospital and I cannot tell you how much it helped me to realize how little the annoyances of life meant and how important the bigger picture was. My heart goes out to Dr. Carlson's wonderful wife and two daughters. I hope you know how much Dr. Carlson meant to people. Thanks for giving him the time to write and share his ideas with the world. They mean a lot and will continue to inspire others forever. (Helen Smith, Knoxville, TN)


I have been a huge fan of Richard's books since I discovered "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" back in 1998. I have read several of his books since and they always make me feel so good and give me a new perspective on life. I was so sad and stunned when I visited his website this morning and learned of his passing. I was recently given his book "You Can be Happy No Matter What" by a co-worker to read and it helped me tremendously. It has also been a big inspiration to other people I know and when I have a bad a day, I pick it up and read Richard's words of wisdom and it helps remind me of what\'s important in life. I am very sorry for the loss of Dr. Carlson, but he has touched my life and the lifes of millions and his loving spirit will continue to do so. Sincerely, Heather Vandenmeiracker (Greenville, SC)


It is with deep regret that I send this email to Richard's family. As I heard the news today of his untimely death, I am in total shock. My heart goes out to his loving family and I will pray for them as they move forward without their loving husband, father, son and friend. I never had the wonderful opportunity to meet Richard in person, but he helped me more than he will ever know. I established a relationship with Richard when my 17-year old son, Cory, died six years ago. Cory's motto in life was "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff". This is on his marker and I continue to live my life with that same outlook. We established the Cory Soles Foundation and have a yearly golf tournament in April. I have talked to Richard many times and he was so kind in his support and donations for this tournament. He also flew his assistant to Jacksonville for the golf tournament in 2004. Even thought I never met him in person, I realize what a wonderful person he is and I am truly saddened by his loss. He touched so many people and his books were amazing. I pray that his children and wife will find some peace and comfort in knowing that he left the world a much better place. My heartfelt condolences and love go out to all of you. Debbie Soles-Smith (Jacksonville Beach, FL)


I am so sorry for your loss. Not only is it a personal loss of a husband or father but also a loss for those of us who felt we knew Richard through his writings. I purchased "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" several years ago and have purchased several copies for family members. I want you to know that even though I have read it several times, the book still sits next to my bed. Often I will read a short chapter before going to sleep. I have taken to heart much of the advice in Richard's books and it has made a change in me for the better. My world is a better place because he shared his wisdom and I'm sure many others feel the same. God bless you. Bahan Rich (Thomasville, GA)


I was so sorry to hear about the loss of Richard Carlson. I read his book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" years ago after it was given to me as a gift. It really changed the way I viewed life and believe it or not his words of wisdom were what was "missing" in my life. From time to time I re-read that book because of the powerful messages that it sends. You were very lucky to have had him as part of your life. Leslie Phillips (Fresno, CA)


I am so sorry about your loss and want you to know how much the "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" books have touched my life. Richard's life was much too short in years, but amazingly rich in impact for people around the world. May you find peace in the legacy he left behind...my heart extends to you in your grief. (M. A. Hill, Clive, IA)


I would like to think that when I die, I will have left a footprint somewhere. I used to feel sorry for myself, but years ago I came upon "Don't sweat the Small Stuff" It started to change my life. The daily calendars reinforced and reminded me of how to live. I know I have a made a small difference in people's lives. I know I am raising my children to do the same. Richard Carlson changed my life and as a tribute to him I will continue to practice what he has taught me and possibly I will leave that footprint when I depart. He certainly left a big one. I am so saddened by his death and you are in my thoughts and prayers during this time. I hope it helps you to know that he changed a sad and depressed person into a happy, hopeful, contributing person. (Rosie Mulford, Asheville, NC)


I am so sorry to hear of this tragedy. I cannot tell you how Mr. Carlson changed my life. While I am sure his family has heard this so many times before, I have to say his book, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" affected me deeply. Several years ago, I fell into a deep and acute depression(due to hormonal imbalance) and this book became my bible. Beleive me, this is not an exaggeration. In fact, since that time, I have purchased this book for several friends and family members. To this day, I still recommend it to people I have counseled and to those who just need to sort out life in an uplifting way. His loss is great I know, and to Mr. Carlson's family I say this; His love for you and for life was evident to all who knew him and to those he reached out to. He will always be with you. And I pray that your tears will be replaced someday with loving laughter when you remember him. Sincerly and with deep condolences, Gina (Northport, NY)


I was shocked and saddened to read about the loss of this extraordinary man in today's LA Times. I picked up Richard's "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" when it was originally published, and have been a fan and advocate ever since. His ability to see the world through the lens of spiritually deeper principles was a much needed quality in our multi-tasking world. He saw things clearly and prioritized the truth. He was unique.

My own father died of a cardiac arrest 13 years ago on December 21 (three days from now). He was training to run the LA Marathon with me and was 63 years old. Like Richard, he was a wise, profound, and kind gentleman. The remarkable thing is, his voice and spirit guide me daily, and I have perhaps made better decisions and lived much more deliberately since his passing. I feel things on a much deeper level, and I know it is his heart and courage that guides me.

God bless you all during this difficult season of your lives. May your friends surround you with His love and care, and may Richard's spirit sustain and strengthen you while you live continue to live your lives with the conviction and purpose your husband and father inspired. With Deepest Sympathy, Michelle Wortner (Newbury Park, CA)


I am so very sorry and so saddened for our loss. I have loved Richard's book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" and will now look at all of his other volumes. What a wonderful legacy has left us with his common sense and understandable and creative counsel. Hugs to his dear family who will miss him terribly. I already do, and I only know him from his few words from one book. whew! I re-read his chapter on imagining yourself at your memorial or funeral, and could only say "You lived a good life, Richard, and will live long in our hearts because you shared simple truths of how to live well... thank you!"Therese (Angelus Oaks, CA)


I can't imagine what you must be going through right now, but I hope that the good wishes and thoughts of all the folks that Richard's life touched can help support you. Although "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" had been around for years, I only just began to read it a few weeks ago. Reading it on the plane on a visit home to San Diego helped me enjoy a visit with my mother, from whom I had been estranged for 4 years. I had no idea that Richard was so young, and so close to home. My partner grew up in Piedmont, and we live just over the Piedmont line. Please know that you are in our thoughts and hearts right now, and that the love your family shared with each other has already touched so many people around the world. With affection, Michelle Cataldo (Oakland, CA)


I met Richard last year in Davis, CA when I went to a soccer tournament with my daughter Sharon. He made a wonderful and lasting impression on me. When I came back home I told all of my friends of meeting him and showed them the personally autographed book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff", which he gave me.I will remember you all in my prayers. Sincerely, JoAnn Soldano (Pueblo, CO)


About a month ago, I started reading Richard's books. My mother and I decided to read his books and to talk about the lessons learned in each one. This plan has not only brought us even closer than we already are, but has really helped us to see what is a big deal in life and what is not; what is worth worry and what is not. We have become less stressed and much happier since reading Richard's books. I have read three of his books, and I have been glued to each word. "Don't sweat the small stuff" spoke to me like no other book nor person ever has. The day Richard passed, I was talking about what it would be like to meet such a wise and kind person (before I had heard the sad news). It would have been extraordinary to meet Richard in person and thank him for his hard work. I now continue to read his books, but with tears in my eyes. I promise Richard that I will live each day to the fullest and not to let my thoughts get to me like he wrote. No more "thought attacks" for me! And if the problem won't be a big deal a year from now, I won't let it ruin my "today." Life is too precious. I hope Richard and his family know how much his words and wisdom have affected the world and how his books will continue to bring wisdom to those who read them. He was an angel on earth, and may he rest in peace, now an angel in heaven. My sincerest condolences to his family, Alani Coleman (high school Spanish teacher in Marin County, CA)


Life is hard, but GOD is good. I am 23 years old, and last year I went through a terrible depression, I was taking LIFE.....wayyyy toooo seriously, so my uncle suggested that I read the original "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff" and without it, I may not be here today, and so I shared this book and others from him with my friends. His readings have helped me and many others.....I thank God for his wonderful practical life applications and for teaching me how to NOT sweat the small stuff....God bless his loved ones and friends, he will surely be missed. :) Crystal (Griffin, GA)


Our deepest sympathies go out to each of you! Dr. Carlson was an inspiration to so many people throughout the world. He will never be forgotten! His books and wisdom have made us all better for having known him through his writing. I'm sure he would tell each of you to live your lives! Be happy! And "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff"! You know where he is and he\'ll be waiting there for you some day. And he is happy! May God richly bless and keep you in every way! Oralene and Dewey Sherbon (Tulsa, OK)


My thoughts and prayers are for Richard and his family. His books truly moved me. In fact, I had an appointment in a small office in Milwaukee, WI last Thursday, the morning after Richard's untimely passing, and the agent I was visiting had "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" sitting right on top of his desk! I mentioned to him how good a book it was and that I should read it again. Talk about irony? Once again, thanks to Richard for his books, wisdom, and words needed in today's society. God Bless, Jim McGrew (Lake Forest, IL)


To the family of Richard Carlson, My thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time. I also experienced the sudden loss of my partner, Jessie, and I know the shock and disbelief that you are experiencing. She was only 49 and two years ago she committed suicide. She had battled depression for years and even though she was on anti depressants she still ended up killing herself. We were together for 15 years and I find it very difficult to tell anyone. I will reread his book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" this week and I will be thinking of you, his family. Please take care of yourselves and take the time you need to grieve. Sincerely, Judy (Henderson, NV)


Dear Carlson Family: I am so sorry for your loss. It was just shocking to open the Los Angeles Times the other day, and wonder, "What is Richard Carlson's photo doing on the obit page?" I am sure you must be devastated, and hopefully hearing from his fans will help a little, at least at some time in the future. I remember seeing the title, "Don\'t Sweat the Small Stuff" before the book came out, and just using that phrase to help me at times, until it was released. I have since then suffered a tragedy that I have had a hard time getting over, but his books (like "Five Principals for Keeping Life in Perspective" or "What about the Big Stuff?") really helped me a lot. More than other books, or even sometimes talking about it. I have bought his books as gifts for friends and family. My twin brother was complaining about how stressful it was to run a martial arts studio in Boston, and as I'm on the opposite coast, could only listen and sympathize. He very much appreciated and utilized the book I sent, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" at work. As you know, throughout his books, he wrote of his good fortune in meeting his wife, and his wonderful daughters, and how happy he was. I liked when he went into detail about your conversations, or how it felt to write during the middle of the night, or the insight he had gained from his family. My sincere sympathies. (Jody Grant-Gray, Santa Monica, CA)


This is the first time hearing of the news and we are very sorry for your loss. We've read Richard's book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" years ago and refer back to it on occassion, truly a Great book! Richard will be truly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you always. Sincerely, Liz & Ken (Pleasanton, CA)


I am in tears today, upon hearing of his sudden death. I'm going to give some extra hugs (real and virtual) to all I love today ... and to you all. Then I'll make a nice cup of organic chai tea in my "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" mug and give some thought to what I can contribute to the world in the year ahead. My heart goes out to you now. (Sheila Martin, Sechelt, BC, Canada)


Please accept my heartfelt expression of sorrow for the loss you have just experienced. I recently lost my own father after a long illness and there was an emptiness that hurt but the love of family and friends helped me overcome and perservere through a difficult time. I still have "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" by my bed after several years and read from it often, it is full of wit, humor and common sense that can help on any given day. This was your father's gift to his fellow Americans and people around the world, never forget that! You have my love and sympathy, especially through this holiday season. (Jeffrey Trobaugh, Upland, CA)


I would like to extend my condolences regarding your loss. I have benefited greatly from "Don\'t Sweat the small stuff" and "Don't sweat the small stuff for women" and feel it is a terrible loss to you and yours to lose such a compassionate man in your life. May God be with you on your journey to healing. (Alicja, Chicago, IL)


Although Dr. Carlson is no longer with us in body, he is and always will be with us in spirit. His books touched many people and had great impact on peoples' lives, mine included. Dr. Carlson did great things for humankind while here on Earth and will continue to do great things for humankind on the other side. I know he's looking down on the world and telling us "don't sweat the small stuff". Dr. Carlson will be missed, but not forgotten. My heartfelt sympathy to his family. God bless! (Catherine Gernegliaro, Englewood, NJ)


Richard's book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" taught me to be a better person, and to go one step farther and reach out to others. Although I have two adult children, I've now started over by sponsoring children in need, thanks to his encouragement in "Don't Sweat...". His loss is tragic for his family and for all of us around the world who were inspired by his words. Hopefully we will continue to live by his words and his family will be comforted in their time of great sorrow. (Steve Krumholz, Pittsburgh, PA)


I would like to express my heartfelt condolences to Richard Carlson's family on the loss of a wonderful husband, father, brother and son. His presence in your life will be deeply missed and I hope that his Light and spirit will continue to guide you, as it did during his time with you. He was able to express his positive essence to millions of others and affected so many people in a positive way for many years. He was a true Light in this world. After I had the first of my two sons and was dealing with the stresses of new parenthood, I received "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" as a gift from my brother. The small book helped me cope in those early days as a working mother with two rambunctious boys. I lost my eldest son Joel in a car accident five years ago when he was eight. Richard's book "What About the Big Stuff" is one that helped me during this difficult time. I feel for you in your time of loss and send my regards and thanks for all you have contributed. (Mariann, Waburn, MA)


Please accept my deepest sympathy at the untimely passing of Richard. His book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" has been a teacher of sorts for me over the years since it came out. Through that book, I have learned more about myself than I ever imagined. Because of that book and some good friends, I began my journey in making some much needed changes in my life. He had a humorous way of saying things that were still very thought provoking. I cherish that book and its many messages to this day as do many of my friends now. Apparently God was short on Angels that day and called Richard home. Although in a better place, he will never be forgotten here on earth. He will be as close as his books. His messages will live on. God Bless Richard's Family at this time. My prayers and thoughts are with you. Sincerely, Susan Simmons (Topeka, KS)


It was with great sadness when I read Dr Carlson's obituary. He definitely left the world a better place by positively touching the lives of millions of his readers and their familes, friends, and others. Yes, even though one may not have read any of his books or even ever heard of him, how can you not say that they haven't been touched in some way by those that have? His writing style was one of those rarities where the reader felt as if he was personally interacting with the author face-to-face. Dr. Carlson's writings in "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" will stay with me for the rest of my life. The book was easy to read yet so compelling. Some of his "lessons" from that book stand out for me: Your In-basket will never be empty, do something nice for someone and don't tell anyone else about it, drive more slowly in traffic, once a week write a heart-felt letter and make service an integral part of your life. My deepest sympathies to his family and friends. Sincerely, Barry Shaver (Perioria, IL)


The Christmas Season, with all its hustle and bustle and wishes for good cheer, is a hard time of year to experience a loss like this. I hope that I could help you by letting you know that Richard did make a difference, especially to me. I appreciated his book, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff". I found many wonderful suggestions for spiritual growth there. I will say a prayer for Richard and for you all. God Bless, Ellen Eltgroth (Havre de Grace, MA)


Richard's "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" is like a Bible for me. The world has lost a very special person who had tremendous insight into how to make life flow easier. My deepest sympathy to all of Richard's family. Sincerely,  Kathy Shore (Greensboro, NC)


I would like to extend my condolences for your families loss. I was informed of Richard's untimely death from David Bach's newsletter today.. I read Richard's Holiday "Don't sweat the small stuff" and that helped me alot and reminded me to tell all my loved ones that they are truly treasured. Sincerely, Amber Garland (Ponoka, Alberta, Canada)


It is with such deep sadness that I have learned of Richard's death at such a young age. His book "Don't sweat the small stuff" has been a fantastic guide for me and really helped me to stay focused on what's important and not get bogged down in the 'small stuff'. I would like to express my deepest condolences on the death of Richard to his family and loved ones. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Yours sincerely, Yasmin Vorajee (Carrick on Shannon, Ireland)


Terribly sorry to hear this tragic news, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" has been of great help to me in adopting a more positive and calm approach to life. My condolences to Richard's family and friends. Gavin (Haywards Heath, UK)


I really don't what to say when something like this happen. My English is not that good and not my native language - and my vocabulary is not big enough to express my feelings, however I'd like to write a few words...

I'm here at my desk, starting a new working day and I just saw the news about Richard's death in the website. I'm sad now. What can I say? I think that just words cannot express some feelings we have...

After I read the "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" series, my life began to change because I began to think in another way - Richard helped me to change some many important things in my life.... the small ones and the big ones! He taught me to give attention in what REALLY matters (and that's PRICELESS). I thought I could meet him someday, have a little coversation and tell him that I became a better and HAPPIER person because of his books. Sometimes, when I'm feeling sad or tense, I read some chapters of one of his books and started feeling better almost immediately... actually I read his books on regular basis. Everytime I get a chance, I talk about his books with other people and tell them that they should try them! I use to read some chapters to my mom and she uses to say: "How does this guy write these things? He says the things the way it is!"

It's strange because even I didn't know him personally, it was like he was a friend of mine, who helps us when we need! That's what I think he did (and still does) with his books - I know that many, many others feel the same! His books are a HUGE part of my life and always will be. He touched my heart and my soul. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I'll always remeber him. (Fernando Ortolani, Campinas, Sao Paulo, Brazil)


I just recently purchased "Don't sweat the small stuff" and I will be purchasing many other books by Richard. I am so moved by his writting that I searched for a Web Site and I found this. I am so sorry for your loss, be comforted that he has guided many people thru troubled times and was an inspiration to his readers and I am sure his family as well. With deepest sympathy, Natasha (Vernon, CT)


I was so sad to hear of the passing of this gentle soul. He had such a calming presence about him and his face just shown with kindness. I am a big fan of "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" and every year I always buy the one-a-day calendar and keep it on the kitchen table, so this way it is the first thing I see and read every morning. I have put alot of what he wrote into practice in my own life and have seen it turn around. It is never the quantity of time we have with someone but the QUALITY time and he always got the message through. I want to extend my sympathy to you but I do know his spirit will be with you every day as a guiding force in your life. I will keep Richard and you in my prayers. Sincerely, Maureen A. Kent (New Hyde Park, NY)


I am so sorry for your loss. Richard\'s book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" came to me in a library I bought for my high school studebnts in a reading program. I quickly fell in love with its apparently Buddhist principals and have been inspired every time I pick it up and read some more of it. It seems terribly cruel that he should have died so young. However, he accomplished so much. I hope you will find the strength you need to get through your grief. Best wishes, Susan Seattle, WA)


Dear Carlsons, I was so saddened to hear of Richard's untimely passing! I have read several of his books and even attended a seminar based on "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff". What a rare and amazing man! I send you my heartfelt condolences and pray that you are comforted during this time. My only comforting thought is that our Heavenly Father needed him in Heaven more than here on earth. Truly, I wish you comfort during this time, and I will try hard to keep Richard\'s teachings in my heart! Linda Carlen (San Lorenzo, CA)


I first want to say how sorry I am for your loss and all the world\'s loss. I was first introduced to Richard Carlson when my parents bought me a book titled, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff". I was sucked right in and over the years found myself buying all of his and his wife\'s Don't Sweat series. I was deeply saddened to hear about his death and I will miss all the help he has given me and the world. Thoughts and prayers being sent your way... Lisa (Bement, IL)


I was saddened to hear of the death of Dr. Carlson; I happened upon his obituary in the New York Times. His book, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Men, is a companion to me and I carry it often with me on my travels. This book is also nightly on my bedside table. As a former longtime resident of San Francisco, I became familiar with Dr. Carlson's books years ago while working in a particularly stressful job during a particularly stressful time of my life. Clearly, with practice, I did indeed learn to "don't sweat the small stuff" and I am grateful to Dr. Carlson for his principles. I extend my condolences to his family. (Frank Violanti, Palm Springs, CA)


Richard Carlson has changed my life for the better. I read & read his great book "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff", in fact I bought many a book & passed it on to friends & collegues. We have lost a great literary genius, who has passed on way too early. My condolences go out to his family. (Ron, Uniontown, OH)


It is with much sadness that I learned today of the passing of Dr. Richard Carlson. Even knowing how special he was, you cannot possibly know all of the reverberating effects of Richard and his books. A friend gave me "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" several years ago. It made a huge difference in my life, because I was doing a lot of sweating of a lot of small stuff. Since then, I've bought many more of his books, and I treasure them and give them as gifts. They have helped me become a better person. The biggest gift Richard gave to me was his encouragement to sponsor children through Children Incorporated. I have four children that I have sponsored through Children Inc. for several years. Today, in memory of Richard, I sent a letter to over 60 of my friends and colleagues asking them to sponsor kids through this wonderful organization, too. Many, many lives have been affected by the life of this wonderful, caring, special man. We share in your loss. We lost him too soon. I will treasure life all the more. With sympathy and gratitude, Dani Joy (Muskego, WI)


Dear Kris, Jazzy and Kenna, Although Matthew and I have not physically met you yet we feel we have. Mike, Michelle and Samantha Robbins are dear friends of ours and we have been priviledged to be made aware of the work that your fine husband and daddy did in this world through the words of Mike over the many years that we have known the Robbins family. I remember years and years ago when Richard\'s book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" was first released a dear friend of mine gave it to me for a Christmas present. I was truly touched by this powerful book and shared it with my dear husband David. That was the first time I learned of Richard's name and his work in the world. In October of 2003 we lost my sweet husband David. It too was suddenly and unexpected. He was 48 years old. We compared David to a comet in this universe making a very fast but memorable visit on this planet. I believe we can call Richard a comet too. The work that he has done in this world has blessed many. My heart reaches out to you and if you would like to visit or talk please know that I am here for you. With a loving heart I am, Patty in San Rafael, CA


I am so sorry for your loss. I started reading Richard's book, "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff" just a few months ago. It helped me learn how to deal with so many things that was happening in my life....both personally and professionally. I loved his books so much that I bought them for my sisters as gifts. Tears came down my eyes when I found out about Richard's sudden death. Even though I did not know him, I feel I have lost someone important to me.....he inspired me to be a good person and to appreciate life. I'm very sad because there are a list of people I wanted to meet someday and Richard was one of them. I would like to give my condolences to the Carlson family. (Linda, Elk Grove, CA)


I am so deeply sorry for your loss and mine. Richard Carlson made such a difference in my life. His book "don't sweat the small stuff". Changed my way of thinking about things, when I really needed a change. It helped me with my anxiety and stress, and the way I was living my life. My perception of my life changed from bad to good, from always unlucky to thankful. I am truly saddened from his passing, but I am also truly thankful for all I gained from his existance. G-d speed and g-d bless. (Alicia Feldman, Philadelphia, PA)


I am completely floored by this news and can only imagine the feelings you all are having right now. I wanted to let you know that Richard and Kris have had such an impact on my life. I started reading "Don't sweat the small stuff" series in college. Once I opened a book, I could not put it down. As I read each word, each sentence, each paragraph it filled my heart and soul with such a peace and understanding that I could not explain. The book, "don't sweat the small stuff in love" has helped my find my perfect mate and has improved my marriage tremendously. I honestly could not imagine life without these books. Thank you for all the great advice. My condolences go to Richard's family. (Dana Holland, Kinston, NC)


To the family of Richard Carlson, I would like for you to know how much reading "Don't Sweat the small stuff", has helped me do exactly that. It has been a godsend for me. Richard's compassionate and humorous advice is so down to earth, meaningful and common sense that many of us need to be reminded about. My heartfelt condolences go out to you in this difficult time in your lives. However, with prayers and the love of family and friends, your grief will be lessoned while the cherished memories of Richard Carlson will last forever. (Nick Cataldo, San Bernardino, CA)


Dear Dr.Carlson's family- I can not imagine the depth of your grief. I lost my sister to cancer when she was just 38 years old, some 13 years ago...and that was hard enough. Since that experience, I have often searched for meaning in various "self-help" writers. I found your husband's writings to be the most meaningful and helpful. My father, in particular, has suffered for years with anxiety and depression, has sought help through counselors, etc.. With the death of my sister, my father became more despondent. Only Dr. Carlson's works- especially "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" -- provided him with great comfort. Since my father was a philosophy professor and could tear apart any argument, writing, attempt at logic, etc., this is quite a compliment. I thank you on behalf of my father and myself, for the GREAT comfort your husband provided both of us in his wonderful outlook on life. I found the book, "Shortcut Through Therapy" to be particularly helpful. Anyway, having read your message, Mrs. Carlson, it is clear that you are as fantastic as your husband was. I pray that you and your daughters can some day find some peace with the unexpected and truly sad event. When I lost my sister, I often thought that I had 36 years of sisterly love that some people never know in a lifetime. I wish you the best.God Bless you always, Roberta Benjamin (Haddonfield, NJ)


About 10 years ago, I went to a professional workshop in Minnesota on how to improve communication with the public. The instructor indicated that she would hand out 'gifts' to those who did best. I was awarded the first place prize at the end of the session. It was a paperback book of "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff". Although I had never heard of Richard Carlson (or his book)before, I was intrigued by the title and began reading it on the way home in the plane. The book truly gave me more insight on my daily life. I was so moved by the book, that I passed it on to a couple of other employees (who also enjoyed it). I've kept that book handy all these years, and on occasion reading a short chapter once again. I recently found out about Richard's very untimely death and I'm deeply saddend as well. My heartfelt condolences to the family. (Richard Sklenar, Omaha, NE)


Kris, (and family) We can't begin to tell you how we feel at the loss of someone so unforgettable as your husband. We have 3 girls ourselves...ages 23, 20 and 14, and they grew up listening to "don't sweat the small stuff" audio tapes, as well as reading ALL of the books he wrote. He even left us with some great ideas like "thought stopping" which we still practice all of the time.

Our thoughts and prayers are with all of your family members (especially you and your daughters) during this very difficult time..please know how much your husband touched all of our lives...
(Pete, Lynn, Haley, Carly, and Tessa Jacobsen, Omaha, NE)


We were so saddened to hear of Richard's death. We've been listening to "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" on our commute together, and it has been a reminder to us about what it really important.

"From time to time we've remembered that all glasses eventually break, it's not necessary to drive as if we're in the Indy 500, and taking out the trash more times than the spouse is not a big deal. Above all, life is not an emergency."

He has touched our lives forever. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. (Craig and Lora Kinder Riverside, CA)


I learnt of the passing away of Richard just this afternoon( 3rd January, 2007, when I told a friend whom I was visiting about how his book "Don't sweat the small stuff" had changed my perspectives about life, and then directed him to this web site. I was shocked when, a few minutes later, he, announced that Richard was no more. My first reaction was "It must be a different person" so I had to get up to see the screen for myself. In far away Nigeria, Richard, through his book, has touched and changed my life greatly. Though I never met him in person, I have indeed lost a dear friend. He lived a fulfilled life and touched the hearts of millions all over the world. His was the life of a great man. I pray that God Almighty will grant his wife, daughters and entire family the grace to bear this loss....May his soul rest in perfect peace. Amen. (Mrs. Kehinde Omole, Lagos, Nigeria)


The following condolences were posted on 1/27/07 (125 posted)


So very sad to hear of the loss of such a great person who helped so may people. May God bless him and his family for allowing so many people to begin healing. Thank you and Shalom (Julian Shlush, Bnei Yehudah, Israel)


Kris, Words cannot describe the sadness I feel since receiving the news of Richard's untimely death. The message you left for us sums up beautifully what made him so special. Those of us who were fortunate to have met him in person can attest to it. God could not have put two beautiful souls together more perfectly! I am that supermarket checker whose heart he touched and it was just him being the warm, kind human being that he was. He was a welcome presence whenever he came into the store to do his shopping. He always made me feel at peace with a kind word or conversation. Whenever I asked about you and the girls, his face always lit up when answering. He will be greatly missed. God bless you Kris. Please hug Jazzy and Kenna for me. Love you guys (Sandra Woodard, Pittsburg, CA)


When a man has the "power", the gift, the love, to influence people from all over the world, to have people we have never seen him, spoke to him, feel like somebody beloved died... I have no words to express, tears are in my eyes, I am so sad ... Mrs Carlson, I hope God will give you all what is needed to go through this with the optimism that caracrterized him and you... Optimism, love, spirituality... I am a wife,mother,psychologist, from Greece, Europe. Your husband's books inspired me and helped me in all these roles... My love to all of you from Athens, Greece. (Anny Benetou)


Richard provided so many inspirational messages and advice that were often shared at faculty meetings and educational leadership meetings in our school district. He had so much wisdom and gave so much insight and guidance to make everyday a happy and learning experience. His words and work will continue to help and heal people in the years to come. I so appreciated his work and contributions. My thoughts and prayers are with you. (Dakota Koenig, Oceansite, CA)


I wish to offer my heartfelt condolences to you along with my thoughts and prayers. I was shocked to find the message today upon returning to work after the holidays. I found great wisdom and comfort in the words that Mr. Carlson had to offer. May God be with you during this most difficult time. (Cindy Hester, LaPorte, TX)


Dearest Carlson Family: Words enough cannot describe the feelings there are, and as I am learning through divorce how painful loss is I am grateful that there are people like you to inspire me to carry on. Thank you for writing down words that I myself alone cannot think up. All my love. (Teal Spinks, Pleasanton, CA)


Wow! What a gift your family had in the form of Richard. But then you all know that far better than any of us fans of his could only assume to be true. As a trainer, I used 'Don't Sweat the Small Stuff' all the time when training new child protection workers. I encouraged all my trainees to purchase the book and read it regularly as its wisdom is absolutely priceless! Thank you for sharing him with us. I thank Richard for his beautiful gift of taking excellent dictation and then courageously giving it to the world. Peace, (Renee Michelle Harris, Miami Gardens, FL)


Your husband and father touched my life in many ways. I have shared his thoughts and philosophies with many-my staff, co-workers, people in ministry. He has brightened my perspective on many a day. I pray that his work and legacy will be continued. May the love of Christ be your strength and a very real sense of comfort. (Marian Williams, Special Education Teacher & Social Worker, Upper Marlboro, MD)


I was shocked to hear of Richard's untimely death and I know that God has another angel. It is only the second day of 2007 and for the past few months I have been restless, knowing that I need to get off the "hampster wheel" of everyday life. I made a promise to myself on Dec 31 to look at each day as my last and this tragic event has just confirmed to me that it is time...to not sweat the small stuff. My deepest sympathies to all of you. I lost my husband in 1992 at the age of 47 and to this day when I hear songs that we loved to hear, it takes me back and makes me smile, even through tears. A wise friend and mentor of mine told me that we can create a memory box in our heart and I do, I take a memory out and I embody it then I put it back until another time. Blessings to all of you. (Lynn, Keowwna, BC, Canada)


I have always relied on Richard's words of wisdom whenever I needed a help/support/relief in life. As usual I was going to start a new day at work. And to feel uplifted I opened Richard's website and was shocked by the news. Richard you will be still alive in our hearts and thoughts. (Venki, Chandler, AZ)


I send my deepest condolences to the Carlson family. I have been reading Richard's books every day for the past year. His dedication and devotion in helping people to truly embrace life and to open our hearts to everyone and everything has been such an inspiration. Although my heart is filled with sadness...I am also filled with gratitude for Richards beautiful works. May his memories live on forever. (Masako Ogawa, Tokyo, Japan)


MY DEEP THOUGHTS & SORROW FOR THE CARLSON FAMILY. MAY GOD GIVE THE PATIENCE TO OVERCOME THIS LOSS. I'M A REGULAR READER OF MR. CARLSON'S TOPICS WHICH HELPED ME A LOT IN MY OWN LIFE & I WAS SHOCKED TO HEAR ABOUT HIS UNTIMELY DEMISE. MAY GOD REST THIS GREAT PERSON'S SOUL IN PEACE. I'M PRAYING FOR HIS FAMILY I KNOW ITS NOT EASY AS I ALSO LOST MY DAUGHTER FEW YEARS BACK & I KNOW HOW HIS FAMILY MUST BE FEELING NOW. BUT GOD WILL HELP, HAVE FAITH ON HIM. (Rabia Kalam, Fujairah, UAE)


To Richard's Family, I am Brazilian and every day I read Richard's messages in this site. I felt very sad when I knew about his death. He was a special person and for me he was very important even tho I never had seen him. But his words still in my heart all the days of my life. I thank God for RIchard's life and pray for him. Sorry for my bad english. I hope God stay with you and blessing and comfort all of you. Lylia Diogenes (Brasilia, Brazil)


In peace. I have long owned a copy of "Dont sweat the small stuff.." bought from a pavement store a long time ago. This book is now a treasured part of my bookshelf. I think in his going too, there is a message for all of us, to value each moment. (Mira, Mumbai, India)


Several months ago, my world collapsed as my husband unexpectedly told me he no longer wanted to be married. I was devastated, and voraciously sought out books that would help me sort through the madness. I happened to purchase two of Mr. Carlson's books, "You Can Be Happy No Matter What" and "What About the Big Stuff?". These books and the ideas generated within were a great help to me in what was my most dire time of need. I would not have been able to embark on my own spiritual journey without Mr. Carlson's books. He was a very influential man whose words were a great comfort. He has changed my life, and his spirit will live on forever as his ideas will carry many through the worst of times. My sincere sympathy is with your family. May you take comfort in the life that he lived with you. (M Hallman, Olathe, KS)


Dear Family of Richard Carlson, Having lost my father almost 2 years ago and his older brother on Christmas Eve this year, I can empathize with you in this sudden untimely loss during a very difficult time of year. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers for healing and comfort and the assurance that Richard has helped me through the holidays with his book "Don't Get Scrooged" and he will continue to help many people with all of his loving, healing books and memories. What a legacy he has left for the whole world! In Peace and Healing (Joan Scott Lowe, Birimgham, AL)


Even the title of his books gives us all a wonderful reminder of what is important and what is, well, not. Thank you to his family for encouraging him to write his thoughts and thank you for helping him share it with those who weren't as lucky to have known him. (Beth, Danbury, CT)


Kris....I hope you remember me....your mom and I were running friends and partners in Portland when I worked at Cornell Court Club. I am so sorry to know of Richard's passing and I cried when I read your beautiful, touching tribute. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. (Rita Leusenkamp Timmerman, Scottsdale, AZ)


Following Condolences were posted prior to Jan. 27 (107 posted)


I would like to send my love and prayers as you grieve the loss of Richard. Richards books have been precious to me. He's been a blessing to so many. I'm the niece of Joe Bailey and we've heard so many wonderful things about your family. I work for the airlines and I was flying on Thurs night. There was a solar storm that created the most specatular Northern lights I\'ve ever seen. Perhaps Richard was celebrating in heaven. No doubt heaven is celebrating his arrival after all the lives he touched. We send our love and a big hug to you. Sincerely, Julie Bailey (Eagan, MN)


Dear Kris, Jasmine and Kenna,

I truly regret that I did not do something I had been wanting to do for the last three months. That is I was planning to write to Richard to tell him how wonderful his writing is and how it helps me in my day to day life. Now I think this has taught me another lesson--never postpone anything in life. It was only today (29th Dec) I knew about Richard's untimely passing away. I live in Dubai and the Gulf News runs a page from Richard's essays. No sooner I get the weekend magazine I turn to Richard's page and in that I was shocked to read the obituary. Please accept my deepest sympathies. I cannot even imagine your sadness and profound loss at this time of your life. It was only last year that I came across the book 'Don't sweat the small stuff at work' and then it became to stay with me by my bed side. I told my friends about it and they were glad to follow the weekly page in the news paper. Sometimes we make photocopies and send it around.Then we all nod our heads and say 'Yes we have to be like this.'

Kris, Richard's words have been very inspirational and I take a lot of comfort in them. I am a Sri Lankan mother of twenty year old twin girls with Cerebral Palsy. I am also a special educator for children with Autism. I have always looked up to people who value life and see the positive side of things and Richard has been my favourite from last year. I am planning to buy his latest book. I really don't know why he left us so early. In my belief (I am a Buddhist) he is certainly in another birth and an exceptionally wonderful life having done wholesome karma of helping so many humans in this life.

Kris, unfortunately the Gulf News says that they will not continue this page from next week. I hope and pray it will start once again in the near future. Please convey my love and sympathies to his parents and other family members. Kris and the girls. love to you all. Sincerely, Sandhya Perera, Dubai, U.A.E.


I just read some from Don't Sweat the Small Stuff on Tuesday the 19th, it was bookmarked by my late wife, and fits me to a tee, lower my expectations, things cannot be perfect. Thank you Mr.Carlson. Michael McNeely (Americus, GA )


Kris, I just want you to know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Adam Hampton (Forest Grove, OR )


I heard an interview with Richard at the Commonwealth Club of California about a year ago, then read "Don't Sweat" and have been trying to follow his advice for the past year with good results. I'm just shocked and saddened by his untimely death. How terrible for his family. My condolences! Steve Krumholz (Pittsburgh, PA )


I suffer from major depression,BPD, and bipolar disorder. After my first stay in the hospital my counsler and I read through the book Dont sweat the small stuff. I still get the book out at times to go back through it. Lisa Ellis (Toulon, IL )


Dear Kristine, Jazzy and Kenna, Your loving husband/dad completed his mission early in life. He is gone physically but spiritually he will be with you every step of the way. "To live in the hearts of others is not to die." Richard will live in the hearts of millions for many generations! Thank you for providing him the space and encouragement to write - the world is a better place because of that. May his soul rest in eternal peace and may you have the courage and strength to bear his loss and continue his wonderful message. Amen Azim Jamal, Richard's colleague and author of "The Corporate Sufi" (Vancouver, BC)


May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief. Craig Sachs (Rancho Santa Margarita, CA )


He was a great author and very inspirational. I loved his books. My deepest condolences to the family. Laila (Clayton, CA )


My deepest sympathies to the family on their loss. I have quite a few of Richard's books and have throughly enjoyed them. He'll be missed by many. Susan Wright (Cypress, TX )


Kris, Jazzy and Kenna, Words cannot express the sadness I felt in learning of Richard's death. Our family will always remember him for his positive attitude and truly, "how good he made us feel". His light will also continue on through the countless people all over the world whom he touched, and will touch, with his words. May we honor his life by remembering to cherish what is essential in life, not just at holiday times, but every day.May his undying spirit give you the courage and strength to rebuild happiness in this new chapter in your lives. Peace be with you. Sarah Wood (Lafayette, CA )


His books taught me alot about life and not being stressed out. He will truly be missed by alot of people. Jim Jeffers (Poplar Bluff, MO )


Mrs. Carlson, I have never signed a celebrity guest book in my life, but your husband truly has impacted my family for good. The teen version of DSTSS has so much great advice and I've read it with my teens. Thank you. AM Smith (EM, UT )


I was so sad to read about Dr. Carlson. He was such an inspiration and I really enjoyed reading his books" Don't sweat the small stuff". To his family and friends: My thoughts and prayers are with you. Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel watching over you. Julia (Kansas City, MO )


A light shut off too soon! So sad to hear of this...I gave my teen daughter Don't sweat the small stuff and it changed her life tremendously. Our family is suffering the loss of my oldest brother on Dec 15, so I will lift up your family as well during this holiday season. A Time to grieve, a time to laugh...and a time not to sweat the small stuff...may his love continue in your hearts... God's Peace Be Comfort For You In The Time Ahead... Chris Fagundes (Fife, WA )


So sorry to learn of this tragic loss.I have read "don't sweat the small stuff" (& the newer books) and keep it handy as a reference/"reminder". I have also given them as gifts and boy have they been appreciated. My deepest sympathies to the family on this great loss. Doug M. (Montreal, QC )


Thanks to "don't sweat the small stuff" I'm inspired. This is only a peek into the mind of a brilliant man. Claudia (Sunrise, FL )


I'm so sorry to know about this loss! I have read so many of the "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" books. They are remarkable and practical! I am truly sorry about Richard. Nicole Peterson (Van Nuys, CA )


To the Carlson family, my prayers are with you. "Don't sweat the small stuff" books have really been helpful. The world has lost a great helper. June Miller (Petoskey, MI )


My sympathies to the Carlson family. He was such an active and vibrant person who had such a creative personality. He will be missed by our nation. May the Carlsons be blessed with peace, harmony, and comforted by our Lord. Priscilla A. (Dothan, AL )


There are only a few people in life who truly impact the world in such a positive way. His loss is great to us, but I sense he was called to move on to "bigger" stuff. My deepest condolences to those who were closest to him. Angela (Christiansburg, VA )


My husband routinely reminds me not to sweat the small stuff. Dr. Carlson's positive attitude and impact he had on so many people around the world will be remembered for years to come. In the short time he was here, he impacted so many people for the better. Rest in peace. Your mission has been accomplished here on Earth. Fly with the angels. Sue (NJ )


What a tremendous loss not only to those he loved his family but to those of us who loved what his heart and pen gave us. God Bless! Lyn Coleman (Waco, TX )


Through reading Mr. Carlson's book about not sweating the stuff helped me through many, many difficult times as a single Mom trying to be Super Mom, Super Worker, Super Sister, Super Friend, Super Cancer Survivor, Super Aunt - you get the idea I hope. May he rest in peace. God bless you and your family and keep you safe and give you some peace and quiet understanding and acceptance as to why your loved one was called back to Him. Kathleen (Harwich, MA )


So sorry for your loss. Will be thinking of your family during this time of sorrow. Jennifer Cunningham (Georgetown, KY )


"Don't Sweat The Small Stuff" has helped many get through the rough places in life. May God's comfort help Mr. Carlson's family get through this rough spot and know that he is in a better place waiting on the arrival of those who loved him most. My prayers are with you now and always. Annette Wallace (Longview, TX )


He was an excellent writer and I enjoyed his books a lot. He will be missed by many. Edwyna Humperdinck (San Diego, CA )


May your today's and tomorrow's be comforted by God's grace and his tender mercies.  Deepest condolences to the Carlson Family.
Cheistine Hamilton (Atlanta, GA)


Having recently read his book, I am truly saddened today to read of your loss. Janet (Edwardsville, IL )


Very sorry for your loss. Fun writer. Really enjoyed his books. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff. Teri (Stafford, CT )


I keep Don't Sweat the Small Stuff on my night stand and re-read bits and pieces of it EVERY day. I am sorely saddened by Richard's premature death. My thoughts and prayers are with his wife and children. Darlene Delleman (Davenport, IA )


Richard's books and articles have been so helpful to me over the years. Lately, I have also been logging on to his website where I read of his passing with great sadness. I am sure his messages will live on in all of us who were the lucky recipients of his help and advice. My deepest sympathy his wife, family and friends. Jean (Salem, MA )


I am saddened to hear of the passing of Dr. Carlson. His writing is and always will be an inspiration to anyone in need of comfort or who seeks respite from the daily struggles of everyday life. Richard truly exemplefied the healing spirit. May God bless you all and may you be comforted by Richard's written words. David Eggert (Lebanon, PA )


I just read some from Don't Sweat the Small Stuff on Tuesday the 19th, it was bookmarked by my late wife, and fits me to a tee, lower my expectations, things cannot be perfect. Thank you Mr.Carlson. Michael McNeely (Americus, GA )


Kris, I just want you to know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Adam Hampton (Forest Grove, OR )


I heard an interview with Richard at the Commonwealth Club of California about a year ago, then read "Don't Sweat" and have been trying to follow his advice for the past year with good results. I'm just shocked and saddened by his untimely death. How terrible for his family. My condolences! Steve Krumholz (Pittsburgh, PA )


I suffer from major depression,BPD, and bipolar disorder. After my first stay in the hospital my counsler and I read through the book Dont sweat the small stuff. I still get the book out at times to go back through it. Lisa Ellis Toulon Ill. lisa ellis (toulon, IL )


Kris, Jazzy and Kenna: We are so very sad to hear about Richard. As we are close in age it reminds us how special our time here on earth is. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you guys. Jon and Danielle Boone (Lafayette, CA )


I am so saddened to read of Dr. Carlson's death. His books have, at times, lifted me out of despair. When I first read "Don't Sweat..." it had a profound affect on my life, and I refer to it often in difficult times. His life has been a blessing to many people and I'm sure you as his family have suffered an unbelievable loss. I will be lifting you up in my prayers during this terrible time. A Thankful Fan MaryLynn Phillips (Hull, GA )


Richard has helped me so much with his books, articles, thoughts, and books on tape. He has made definite and positive differences in my thinking and in my life. He and his influence on me will always be so much appreciated and never forgotten.Thank you for everything Richard. Even though I never met you personally, you are a true friend. Doug Cunningham (Lisle, IL )


Rest Well, for you helped us to live well. William Pogue (San Diego, CA )


To The Family of Richard Carlson: I would like to express my sincere sympathy in the untimely death of Richard. I have to thank you for letting him share "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" words that hold true meaning in life. May his memories lead you down a path of accepting that he has joined the heavenly skies and he is your ANGEL who will forever keep his Wings spread to embrace you with his love. I keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. MA    Thank you for you getting me through a lot of difficulties in life. Tonya Murphy


Richard will truly be missed - he was an inspiration to many Pat Owen (Lake Alfred, FL )

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow. Angela Adams-White (Clifton, NJ )


I have certainly enjoyed the reading the work of Richard and Kris. Richard has been a real inspiration to me over the years and has gotten me through some tough times. Eric Ellsperman (Newburgh, Indiana)    My deepest condolences to the Carlson family, I am very sorry for your loss of son, brother, father. God Bless! Author Debbie Ludwig-Galich (Wheatfield, IN )


Thinking of you, Kris, and your family at this difficult time. Richard has left an absolutely wonderful legacy of positive-yet-realistic thoughts to live by in all of his books to which I have turned once again for a Christmas gift for a friend this year. Kris has been doing some wonderful writing herself. Perhaps more to come there too? May we all feel honored and privileged to have had such a wonderful thinker among us who also took the time to put those thoughts into print. Richard lives on through his books and the wonderful memories his family, other loved ones, and all of us have of him. Richard, I can't wait to read Don't Get Scrooged. I know it is another great one. Peace and joy to you, m'friend. You have arrived. Joan Donahue Shanosk (Bethlehem, PA )


God bless you and keep you Mr. Carlson. I am sure that I speak for many when I say that although we will try not to "sweat the small stuff" over the course of the rest of our lives, we will miss your guidance to remind us not to. May your family feel the world wide prayers that are being said for them. A fan, Kristen    My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort. Rosalyn Murray (Annapolis, MD )


I'm so sorry to hear this. He had a great way of telling you how "foolish" you were while making you feel successful. My sympathies to those who knew him.. Louise Wisinski (West Allis, WI )


Richard's books have been an inspiration and big help to me. I'm so sorry and extend my condolences to his entire family. Richard was a treasure and will be sorely missed. Richard Poisson (Salem, MA )


Richard was one of the few real heros in this world.He was loved by millions for his positive loving attitude. My condolences to his family from Germany. Nicola Martin (Ulm GERMANY)


I am so very, very, deeply sad to hear this terrible news. My best 'life philosophies” came from him. My favorite one, which I use all the time, was "Will this (problem) matter one year from now"? And, I am sure that his death is an instance that will – indeed - matter one year from now, and beyond, for his dear family and friends. But, for the 'small stuff' which I worry about in my daily life, his words guide me immensely. He was a wonderful man, and I am sure a wonderful family man. I just love his writings. Sara Camp (Atlanta, GA )


Dear Don and Barbara, I just read of the demise of your beloved son, Richard, this morning..although this is a time for sadness, we can all know that richard gave us a life to celebrate.....we were ablee to share some of his thoughts on our fly-fishing trip in alaska.....may you have peace....... Art Schanche (Los Angeles, CA )


My heart and prayers are with Richard's wife and family. I have all the books..have given all of them for gifts..Thanks for making my life easier and better. I will TREASURE my collection of books. patricia and Henry Slide Winston Salem North Carolina Patricia Slide (Winston Salem, NC )


I just read with sadness about his death. I own a couple of his fabulous books and refer back to them often. My prayers go out to his family, friends and fellow admirers of his work. Angie Pittman (Toledo, OH )


Mr. Carlson was a treasure and I enjoyed the book "...The Small stuff" so much. I gave several copies away for gifts. I know the sting of death leaves a lot to be desired, but thank God for the miracle and gift of memories. May your memories get you through the tough days ahead. I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts. Debra Harris (Middletown, NY )


I have used Richards books to help me through many trivials. He has left foot prints in my life although we have never met. My heart goes out to his family. Marcie Maier (Fort Wayne, IN )


My thoughts and prayers are with you. I have thoroughly enjoyed, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff in the Workplace," and "Relationships." Thanks for helping resolving issues in both of my work and personal relationships. LINDA TRACY (CLEVELAND, OH )


Don't know what to say, but my heart goes out to you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers, you are dear to my heart. Love you all!! Erica Kramer (Walnut Creek, CA )


Dear Kris, Jasmine, and Kenna, So sorry to hear the devastating news. Know that your husband and Dad made a wonderful difference in the lives of many. I cherish especially Richard's tape and CD versions of his books which helped soothe much anxiety at the end of the day or helped jump-start my day with hope and help! Sandy Churchill (West Bridgewater, MA )


Carlson Family I send you love, ease and my prayers in this time of healing. Memories last forever and he will be with you all in spirit. T Champion-Benjamin (Fairfield, CA )


Dear Don, Barbara, Kris and Girls: My heart was broken when I learned of Richard's death. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Richard was one of the most wonderful human beings to grace this earth. We are truly a sadder world without him. Linda Wuy (El Sobrante, CA )


Our deepest sympathy to all of Richard's family. We remember him from his Wildwood School days in Piedmont and from the soccer fields of Contra Costa County, where we could see what a devoted and wonderful father and husband he had become. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Bill and Kate Crawford (Piedmont, CA )


I was very sad to hear about Richard Carlson's passing. Since I don't read too much English, I never read his books, but I did have the chance to meet him and his family when I, along with Ron Perkins, painted homes and condos belonging to Richard and his family. They were all such very nice people and I am very sorry about the loss of such a wonderful human being. My heart goes out to his family. Ruben Carbajal (Concord, CA )


I was very saddened to hear of Richard Carlson's untimely death and send heartfelt condolences to his family, especially at this difficult time of year. I gave many copies of "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" as gifts to friends and family. Such wisdom from such a young man! I will make a contribution to a local food bank in his memory. (Sigrid) Kirsti Nicholas (Walnut Creek, CA )


Kris, Jazzy and Kenna, I am so very sorry to hear of Richard's passing. Kris, you, Richard and the girls, were like family to me while growing up. I will never forget how kind, patient and understanding Richard always was. One could truly see how much he loved all of you. I wish you some sort of solace through this grief-stricken time, with the memories of Richard held close. You are such a beautiful family. May God help to heal your wounds. Melissa Mazur (Hageman) (Santa Maria, CA )


Our generartion has truly lost an inspirational soul.Our prayers are with his family at this time. Richard's words and thoughts will live on after him. Anthony Nelson (Ajax, ON )


To the family of Richard Carlson, My prayers are with you. I am so sorry for your loss and also the whole world's loss. I did not know Richard, but I used to live in Martinez and was proud that he was a local guy. His smile and warm spirit was evident to all. I am sad he was taken so soon, he had so much to offer. I am reminded again of how we never know when our time will come and that we need to see each day as a gift. God Bless. Luci Flynn (Brentwood, CA )


My thoughts are with Richard's family today and through the Christmas holidays, which will never be the same. Richard was an awesome inspiration through his writing, and a brother, son, husband and daddy who has been taken way too soon. I know how hard it can be. With much love from a sister's friend, Michele Nicholas (La Selva, CA )


I was a friend of Richard's in high school. I celebrate the immeasurable richness of his life and am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you. William Seavey (Sacramento, CA )


Kris, Jazzy, and Kenna Carlson, I was so sad to hear of Richard's passing. What a tremendous loss to so many people. Your family is so fortunate that he was in your lives-even though his time was shortened. My memories include chats at Martinez Junior High, Benicia at the Marina condominium, and even Sea Ranch!!! I only wish I had known him better. I am sure his humor, strength and compassion will help you through this amazingly difficult time. My thoughts and prayers to all of you. Louanne Olafson Petty, (Benicia, CA )


We attended a lecture of Dr. Carlson at Christ the King Church. It was standing room only. So inspirational but the main thought that I repeat a lot to friends was attributed to his wife who was accompanying him to a party. He was kind of reluctant to go to the party because they might not have a good time. His wife told him "if you're not going to have a good time, then wait 'til you get there not to have a good time". I'm reminded of this so often when folks are complaining of events in the future. We certainly enjoyed all his words and those of Mrs. Carlson. Our sympathy to the family and his friends. Teresa Poirier (Martinez, CA )


I was so sad to hear of Richard's death. Jazzy was one of my students at Alhambra a couple of years ago. I believe I met Richard at a Back-to-School night. He seemed a truly caring father and happy man. Both of these qualities live on in Jazzy. My prayers go out to all of you. Bob Holsinger (Martinez, CA )


Dear Kris, We learned of Richards passing yesterday. Marni sent us an email with the sad news. Both Tom & I are in shock and send you and the girls our heartfelt thoughts and prayers. I'll never forget something he once mentioned, it was that people will always remember how you made them feel. It was so inspiring and meaningful and meant so much. Richard was a very special and evolved soul. We will miss him, but know he is in God's hands. Our love & prayers to you, Jazzy and Kenna. Tom & Ruth Buzzard (Windlesham, England)


I am so sorry for your loss. Richard was such a wonderful man and a positive influence in my life. I will always cherish the time that I took all the calls for his office when Rhonda Hull was his associate and she was out of the country on a holiday. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the girls. Lisa Ferguson (Pleasant Hill, CA )


My thoughts are with Richard's family today and through the difficult days ahead. A son, husband, father, brother has been taken too soon. I lost my own husband just 3 months ago and know how difficult it is and will be for you all. With love from a cousin, Linda Matson Beattie (Moraga, CA )


My thouths are with your family. Dr.Carlson made a big difference in my life. Bob West (Martinez, CA )


I had read a part of his book while sitting in Barns and Noble and thought was very inspiring. We need more people in the World that inspire others! May God bless his soul! Manjit Singh (Martinez, CA )


Kris, You and Richard have made a difference in this world. My heart was broken for you and the girls today. I simply don't know what to say except I am sending you all loving thoughts today and for the days ahead. Donna Darling (Martinez, CA )


Richard: It is no secret that we all are great fans of you and your work. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family during this difficult time. Rest in peace dear Richard. Cyndie LMA (Walnut Creek, CA )


I can't believe he is gone at such a young age. His articulate books brought out the smiles to everyone who knew him, and read his books. My heart goes out to his family at such a trivial time. His legend and his books will still remain in our hearts and lives forever. God bless. Danita Gonzales (Watsonville, CA )


Richard was one of my favorite author's. I have turned to his books again and again to calm me and help me gain perspective in my life. He will be deeply missed. Priscilla Michel (New Orleans, LA )


Our hearts go out to you at this time and in the days ahead. Jeanne Robinson (Martinez, CA )


I pull out Dr. Carlson's book, "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff", over and over when life's burden's begin to press in. I guess the time is right to do it again to find solace for his loss. His work will live forever as inspiration to all. Doug Tinney (Fremont, CA )


Dr. Carlson touched millions of people everyday through his writing and he will continue to do so. He truly practiced what he preached. He was an amazing individual that I luckily had the chance to meet, through my friendship with his daughter. My condolences go out to Jazz, Kenna, & Kris. His memory will live on forever. M. Melnick (Lafayette, CA )


I am so sorry for your loss...I will cherish the wonderful memories of knowing Richard.. He was truly and incrediable man... I will carry him in my heart... I remember all the good times on the soccer field with our youngest daughters and the wonderful talks that we had watching them play and grow into wonderful young ladies. If I can ever do anything for you Kris and the girls please do not hesitate to call on me...I lost my Mom this year and I truly know what you are going thru...My children have know your family and the girls for years and this is a loss for us as well...Please call on us if you need anything. Richard touched so many lives and he will truly be remembered as an Angel to all.... Juli Anderson (Martinez, CA )


Richard was one of the kindest and most sweet hearted individuals I have come across in my life. I will always remember his smile and the warmth he brought into a room. I feel privileged to have been in a small part of his life. He will be truly missed and my heart goes out to Kris, Jazzy and Kenna. Nicole Stanley (Lafayette, CA )


I only have a few of Richard's books, but I treasure each one of them for the calmness they bring to me when I am struggling with life which has been very stressful of late. I made Richard's website my home page and so visited it daily, even if only while going straight to another website, it just always reminded me of what I had learned from his books. To his family my deepest condolences. Lianne (Auckland, New Zealand)


I never knew him but knew his work. That's sad because I tried to believe as he did & isn't it ironic as Alanis Morisette sang. It makes me wonder just what it is all about-this thing-Life. My deep sympathy. Lois Heath (Augusta, GA )


Our hearts go out to you at this time and in the days ahead. Carole and Pat Stewart (Martinez, CA )


I did not know the gentleman personally, but I can tell you he was a wonderful writer. A friend of mine purchased me one of his books a few years back as I was always "sweating the small stuff". It was a great read and it really made me look at what matters in life. I would like to pass my condolences on to his family (Sacramento, CA )


Richard Carlson touched so many of us in such a positive way. His memory will live on in our hearts. Thinking of you and sending prayers.    Carol Eldridge, Hospice of Contra Costa (Martinez, CA )


I had the honor of meeting Richard about a year ago through a mutual friend, and from only a few minutes in talking with him, I realized how great of a person he was. My prayers and symphathy goes out to his wife and two girls. Rest in peace Richard. Jimmy Maxon (Martinez, CA )